(Closed) Nervous about saying my vows

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I felt the exact same way. After we both wrote our vows, I read mine and loved them… but I love them as something I would write to him in a letter he reads the day of. I’m not embarrassed, it just seemed too personal and nerve-wracking to read them in front of everyone.

So, we picked some short and kind of traditional vows and just changed the adjectives a bit to make them more appropriate for us. It definitely eased some of the anxiety that I anticipate with reading aloud in public.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am like you, I KNOW I would get wayy too nervous reading something so incredibly heartfelt out in front of a crowd of people.  I feel it’s way too personal for that.

Because of that, my Fiance and I are writing our own vows but we are not going to read them at the wedding, we will be reading them to each other in private right after the ceremony.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We wrote and said our own vows, and then did the traditional ones as well.  It definitely made the day more nerve-wracking, but I am so glad I have the memory of what he said.  I would be a nervous bride all over again just to hear him say them again!  Be sure you write them down and have the officiant carry them for you.  He can hand them to you when it’s time, so you won’t have to carry them down the aisle. 

We chose to memorize ours, but that makes it all the more difficult! 

Another option is to write them like a letter to each other, and have them delivered to each other just before going down the aisle, when you are in whatever room you’re getting ready in… so you can read them privately and the words will be on your mind as you walk down the aisle.  Then you say the traditional vows, and can be more relaxed.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At a wedding I went to this summer, the bride and groom wrote their own vows but said them softly enough that only they, the pastor, and maybe the BMs and Groomsmen could hear what was said. Everyone told them later they should’ve spoken louder, but I’m pretty sure they didn’t want anyone else to hear because it was special to them. It was an awkward 2 minutes of pure silence, but I thought it was sweet.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@galloway111:  Thank you for coming to my wedding!  lol  This happened by accident at my wedding and one of our guests said it was like watching a beautiful silent movie.

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