(Closed) Nervous about trying on dresses

posted 9 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How were you feeling about trying on dresses?
    Are you nuts!?!? I was PUMPED : (18 votes)
    34 %
    I was indifferent ... : (8 votes)
    15 %
    I was really nervous : (27 votes)
    51 %
    I didn't shop for dresses : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    i wasn’t a big fan of the big fluffy white wedding either.  i went to non-bridal stores first e.g. local stores that i liked and stores that were quoted as non-traditional. i tried dresses that were more bridesmaid /cocktail dresses before i put my foot into a bridal store. i also kept it really small – only 1 other person w/ me at any time or alone.. so it wasn’t like a total “say yes to the dress” episode!

    hope that helps

    Post # 4
    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I was completely convinced that I would never find “my dress” so I didn’t want to even begin trying. I wasn’t going for the typical long puffy white dress. Instead we started in a little boutique, not bridal, and found it right away, it was the third dress i tried on.

    Post # 5
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I had the same feeling I guess at one point.  I had gone to Indiana to visit my sister who never comes out to California and she reallllly wanted me to try on dresses at a shop in her town so that she could see me trying them on.  Freaked me the F out!  I couldn’t tell you why it scared me but it did.  Then trying on the dresses I was nervous, irritable, and really hot.  I tried on 2 or 3 just to make her happy then was like get me out of here.  I eventually did go to a store where I live, with a good friend, tried dresses on, drank champagne and had a great time and got a dress…not sure what snapped me out of it but I eventually did feel comfortable with it.

    Post # 6
    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    I was excited, but a little bit anxious about shopping for a dress.  I was worried that I wouldn’t find anything I liked and that I wouldn’t be able to try on the sample sizes.  I was a little nervous going into it, but everything turned out really well. 

    I know a lot of brides get emotional when trying on dresses for the first time.  It’s one of the times during the process where it can really hit you that you’re actually getting married!  The best advice I can give you is just to relax and have fun.  In retrospect, I was kind of anxious about the whole thing and I wish I had just had more fun with it. 🙂

    Post # 7
    25 posts
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I too was a little anxious. I was seriously worried that the assistants would be snooty and thought I should dress up for my first appointment so that they would take me seriously. I was quite worried about being given really expensive gowns to try on and that I’d “bee” (sorry) too chicken to explain my price point. Turns out, my assistant was a doll, and the experience was sort of fun. I was shocked to find out that to order a dress would take 8 months and alterations up to another 2 months.. I had been planning to leave dress shopping until the last minute (until those last few pesky pounds magically melted away 🙂 ) and only went so early because my mother was in town. I went in clueless and came out without my dream dress, but knowing things that I did want (ivory) and things I didn’t want (sheath) which was great!

    Post # 8
    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I was not looking forward to dress shopping at all.  It just isn’t my idea of fun, I cringe when watching “Say yes to the dress”.  Since our wedding party and families are all out of town I just didn’t want to make a big ordeal out of it.  I went on a week day off to David’s bridal, looked at only the dresses that I wanted- tea length (which meant that I didn’t need help trying them on!) and ended up loving and buying the first dress that I tried on.  I got a simple tea length dress and my mom, grandma, and I are going to embellish it ourselves over a few weekends when I am home. 

    Post # 9
    31 posts
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I just started looking for dresses today and I was very nervous – I had my first appointment at a salon.  I was a little shaky when I drove into the parking lot.  I thought, OMG, I’m way too huge to try on samples, I’m not going to find anything, and like Future Mrs.D, I was afraid that they’d be snooty.  Fortunately, I was wrong on all accounts.  As a size 10/12 woman, some of the samples were small, and some I was swimming in – but I was able to try all sorts of different styles thanks to those “chip clip” things they use to anchor the dress to you.  My consultant was so nice and had a great sense of humor.  She was unfazed by me in my underwear, and best of all, I found six dresses I liked!  I’ll be going again with my mom for her input and looking at a couple of other places, but I am now officially excited about shopping for the dress.

    Oh, and I think I found “the dress” – it’s the Vineyard Madison.  I was hoping I would hate it on me, but unfortunately, it’s perfect.  Now, if I can justify the pricetag…I also found other dresses that I liked, too, so I’m trying to keep an open mind!

    Post # 10
    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2008

    Ugh! Dress hunting has been the worse experience in the whole wedding planning experience to date.  I’ve never been a clothes-girl and always feared how dress shopping would go.  I typically always have problems finding clothes that fit properly (a fact that I feel like everyone has, which leads me to ask who the heck are these designers designing for??).  Despite my horrible consulant, I found a dress that both my mother and best friend loved and looked great on me. However, I’m not sold and don’t really think I’ll ever find a dress that gives me that can’t-live-without feeling.  …..ugh….

    Post # 11
    997 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

    I was kinda nervous/dreading going dress shopping – I had this fear that I wouldn’t like any of them!  But after my first appointment, I realized my fears were unfounded – I had the opposite problem – I loved a whole bunch of them!  I think it can be a little nervewracking at first, but just enjoy yourself and don’t stress out about it too much!  Good luck and keep us posted!

    Post # 12
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    A wedding gown can be a very stressful purchase.  But the really good thing is that you have a lot of time left before your wedding!  That means that you can take your time and visit as many salons as you need to, and try on as many dresses as you want.  I tried on more than 100 dresses before finding the right one.  So don’t worry – there is a dress out there for you.  

    I just have one caution for you – take your time and make sure the dress is right.  Do preliminary shopping before ever making a purchase.  Be careful at sample or trunk sales!!! Many brides have found wonderful dresses at discount prices, but others have succumbed to the heightened pressure to BUY TODAY for an INCREDIBLE DISCOUNT and make a dress purchase they later regret.  But if you have done preliminary shopping at other salons, and know what types of dresses look good on you, sample sales can be a great way to save money.

    With a year to go, do not worry about making a purchase the day of a trunk sale – chances are good if you live in a major metropolitan area they will come back again soon to a nearby store.  Major dress retailers have their trunk shows listed on their websites, so you can see if you are under any time pressure to buy a dress during that show.  

    Unless you are at a sample sale, I would recommend that you not make any purchases on the spot – I came back to try on my dress twice before buying it, and I was absolutely certain that I loved it before I made the purchase.  Also, many salons are more open to negotiation if they see that you are on the fence about making the purchase, and take your time.

    I hope this isn’t too scary – I just want you to know that with plenty of time, you have a lot of options and should take your time looking for a dress.  


    Best of luck to you!

    Post # 13
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Can you say panic attack. I couldn’t even leave my house, my MoH and my mom plied me with champagne and cheese and fruit to get me into the car. The first dress i put on, I almost had a Carrie moment, wanted to rip that gown off of me! That was one store in like 6 that I traveled too and tried on dresses, (as far as 100 miles away from me).

    The first store was the worst, but the champagne really helped. Just keep your instincts and go with your gut. That first store put me in like a 1990’s satin monstrosity and then had to nerve, to say “ohhh it’s your dress, let us write it up for you!” God it was hidious and I’m glad I went with my instincts and said… uh NO thank you, it won’t come in Silver and I want a Silver/Gray gown.  They kept trying to talk me out of my choice of silver/gray.

    Don’t LET the sales people bully you and make sure you’re surrounded by ones that really will tell you if you look good or not. I am so in love with the dress i finally got. I haven’t even had second thoughts about it and I know it will be stunning.

    Just have some champagne and make it a day of shopping with your favorite ladies, oh and be sure to go out to lunch afterwards so you can joke around about all the dresses that you didn’t like! 🙂

    Post # 14
    31 posts
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Hee!  A little champagne sounds like a great idea for when my mom and I go shopping together for the first time next Saturday!  I agree – you should never agree to a dress you don’t really love, especially if you have time to look around and think about it.

    Congrats on finding your dress!

    Post # 15
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I am STILL a bit nervous about trying them on! I made a “date” with my mom and aunt to go shopping (months ago) on August 21. My aunt is actually FLYING DOWN to Florida to go. Which I truly think is making me even MORE anxious. So, I cheated. I went with a friend to try on dresses in her hometown while I was visiting for the weekend. It was so much more relaxed. I think a lot of my stress comes from knowing my mom will be there, and she can be a bit…. critical. So going through the experience once, and getting it “out of the way” so to speak, means that going in a few weeks with my family won’t be so scary. Scary, but not as scary Laughing

    Post # 16
    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I was a little nervous, that i might not find the right one. but it was so exciting!

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