Post # 1
Hi all –
This is my first post, so firstly, woohoo to that! I’m currently a waiting bee, and know the proposal is coming some time in the next 6 months. We’ve discussed that we want to get married soon, have discussed rings, wedding locations, and SO constantly tells me that he can’t wait to marry me and that I “won’t have to wait too long”.
It turns out SO and I are going to Paris for Christmas. I am rather suspicious the porposal is coming. After all, what could possibly be a more ideal setting for a proposal than the most romantic city in the world at Christmastime!!?! On top of that, the night we booked our Paris tickets, he hummed “here comes the bride” like a complete weirdo before we went to sleep. (!!)
However, this past weekend, when I jokingly prodded SO about what my Christmas present is, he said “really, really expensive jewelry”… and when I asked what kind, he joked “a toe ring!” … Do you think he is NOT going to propose at Christmas given he actually came out and said expensive jewelry? And even said the word ring?!
I’m so darn anxious – the wait is killing me! I’m trying my best not to have expecations for our trip, because I’d be one sad bee if nothing happened, but it’s awfully hard to stop fixating on the possibility of a Paris Proposal!
What do you all think?
Post # 3
He probably will based on your post, but just try not to have expectations in case he decides to ask at a different time. Just try to enjoy the fact that you’ll be in Paris with him!
Post # 4
I agree with PP — signs seem to point to yes, but try not to overthink it (I know it’s hard!) because you want to have a good time in Paris no matter what. If you can put it out of your mind and just enjoy yourself, it will feel like a wonderful surprise if he does propose then, and if he doesn’t then you’ll just have an amazing time in Paris with the man you love! Win-win in my book 🙂 but I know that’s easier said than done!
Post # 5
I went to Paris a year ago knowing me and SO weren’t going to get engaged and I STILL cried (I’d had a lot of wine) the last night there when I knew for sure there would be no more chances for him to do it (in case he got carried away by the romance of the city).
So I am not going to tell you to not get your hopes up because I know it won’t really work. I will say TRY not to drive yourself crazy about it because really, there COULD be no more perfect place or time for a proposal- even an idiot could figure that out. So hopefully your SO is not an idiot
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor
Soo exciting!!! I was in an almost identical position last year – we had gone ring shopping, Mr. W had asked my father for my hand in marriage, and both of our families had gotten together to celebrate Thanksgiving and it was a huge hit. We had booked a trip to NYC for New Years back in July, so everyone was telling me they thought Mr. W was going to propose on the trip. I assumed he would propose at midnight – how romantic, right? And I told a lot of people that I would LOVE for him to propose at the top of the Empire State Building. He did end up proposing on the trip, but not at the time I expected (he proposed mid-day on New Year’s day) or the place (he proposed in Central Park). Since your Boyfriend or Best Friend is acting really goofy, I would guess that he’s going to propose on the trip – but try to stay open-minded about it and let him surprise you! And def post pictures back here whether or not he does… I love Paris!!
ETA: P.S., welcome to the ‘bee!!
Post # 7
You guys are the best!! Thank you for replying so quickly 🙂
I agree with you guys that I should temper my expectations no matter what. Thank you for the encouragement in that regard! And LOL @ TeamAwesome, I’ve said those same words to my girlfriends – “I’m sorry, but how much of an idiot would he be to NOT propose there at this point?!” Funny you share my sentiment!
I’ll certainly let you all know what happens on the trip…
Post # 8
Well it sounds like this isn’t happening after all…
Last night, SO said everyone at work is asking him if he’s going to propose to me in Paris. “God, no! I’d never propose there! How cliche!!”
Cliche?? Um, I think it’s just romantic? Well, back to the wait…
Post # 9
Hmph. Clichés are clichés for a reason- because they WORK! SMH
Post # 10
@lulubee3: fingers crossed for you!! Make sure you enjoy the vacation, not just wait for the ring. BUT ring or no ring, it will be an amazing vacation!!! As for it being cliche….Fiance told me he wouldn’t ever propose on a holiday because it was too cliche….guess when he asked, valentines Day!!! How much more cliche does it get than that???? Lol men!
Post # 11
Well… I may have taken matters into my own hands. The day after he told me that, I informed him that in fact I don’t think a proposal in Paris would be cliche at all. He looked intrigued.
The next night I found pages of BlueNile.com in his internet browsing history………….
Post # 12
I think he will! You lucky girl, what a romantic place & a great story you will have!
Post # 13
@lulubee3: how did your trip turn out??
Post # 14
@FutureWife517: Thanks for asking 🙂
We had a fabulous trip… an absolute dream! We went to all the museums, visited the eiffel tower at night, went to some fabulous restaurants, Notre Dame for Christmas Eve mass, and wandered around the cobblestoned streets exploring. I couldn’t have asked for a more romantic time. We even put a lock on one of the bridges over the Seine with our initials.
He did not propose, but we talked about it! He said he had thought about proposing to me in Paris, but wanted to wait so that he could save for a “proper” ring. I was surprised, because I had told him quite adamantly months before that I don’t need a big ring… it turns out he wants to get me one that is 2ct + ?!!! (Holy Jeez!)
Anyway, he gets his bonus on February 12th, and then we are going on a mysterious B&B weekend getaway the following weekend. I am *definitely* going to be suspicious the whole time! He has been more lovey dovey than ever lately, and keeps asking “when do I get to marry you???”
Post # 15
It’s a tough one, it might be a decoy? My friend went on a romantic weekend with her other half last year (we all knew a proposal was coming soon) and she ended up really upset when it didn’t happen. A month or so later they went on a night away in a hotel, whilst driving he said to her can they just have a nice night and drop it with the proposal chat etc because it’s all she spoke about. That night, at dinner…he popped the question!
My bff is in a similar situation at the moment. We all know a proposal is soon and we’ve just booked a group (3 couples, all best friends) holiday to Ibiza in June. I woke up in the middle of the night and texted our other friend saying I’m convinced it’ll be in Ibiza because we’ll all be there (which is kind of a thing in our group, having our pals at our engagement)…BUT I’ve just found out that they’re going on holiday to Paris in March. Being the super soppy guy that he is we figure that’s where he’ll do it, but I’m torn as to whether it’s a decoy!
On a similar note, here is the CUTEST proposal ever! A friend of a friend (lets call her Karen) went to Paris with her bf, utterly convinced he would propose & was so jumpy and excited about trying to second guess him…but he didn’t and she got upset. A while later they went back to Paris, this time she didn’t think anything of it because they’d already been, right? WRONG! SO they went to that famous bridge where people attach padlocks to show their love. They had a padlock made, but he said to her that loads of people attach their padlocks there, why don’t they go somewhere nice and attach theirs…then it will be their own special place. So they head towards a nice park they’d spotted earlier in the holiday and they suggest putting their padlock by a massive tree (which had a fence around it). As they get closer she gets kinda bummed because there’s already a padlock on it, he suggests she reads it and it says…”Karen, will you marry me?” and he’s bent down on one knee with a ring!!! Altogether now….aaaaawww