(Closed) Nervous BMs

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
596 posts
Busy bee

remind them that no one will be paying attention to them…all eyes will be on you! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
7 posts
  • Wedding: January 2009

If you’re having a rehearsal before the big day, that will help them get used to the walk down the aisle and hopefully, make them feel more comfortable πŸ™‚

Post # 5
405 posts
Helper bee

LOL at emileee but it’s true! The only reason I noticed the BMs at the last wedding I was at was because I was seated so close to them. πŸ™‚ People will look at them as they walk down the aisle but I don’t think anyone will be shooting daggers at them! πŸ™‚
I have no advice about the speech part. I don’t know if I’ll be able to say a quick Thank you at our reception. I am TERRIFIED of public speaking but at least I’ll know everyone at our wedding! πŸ™‚

I’m sure after the girl time and mimosas their nerves will calm a bit. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i was a Maid/Matron of Honor 3 times, 3 toasts and i have to say every time i was alittle nervous to speak in front of everyone, however not so much walking down the aisle. its true though, everyone is waiting to see the bride walk down the aisle…not so much the bridesmaids. even if they are nervous, just tell them to try to smile, breathe, and walk slow!!!!!! as for the Maid/Matron of Honor speech, i would tell her to keep it short and sweet.. and by all means to practice it!!! my speeches were all fairly long but i practiced each one ridiculously and i was just fine…….whatever she says that is truly from her heart will sound perfect!! they will do beautifully!

Post # 8
2404 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

also, the last wedding i was Maid/Matron of Honor the bride took all of us bridesmaids to get our hair done and she also made mimosas for us and brought a light lunch… it was very relaxing just sitting around talking to each other for a few hours in our "getting ready" clothes. we all appreciated her very much and for me, helped eased my nerves! i think thats a great idea!

Post # 9
2640 posts
Sugar bee

I can understand feeling a little awkward with everyone looking at you walking down the aisle, but all the nerves??  Is this their first wedding?  Also, does your Maid/Matron of Honor have to give a toast?  Traditionally the best man gives a toast.  The Maid/Matron of Honor giving one is rather new.  If she really wants to give one, that’s fine.  But if she feels like it’s an automatic committment, you might want to let her off the hook.

Also, I’m not really sure that it would be best to simply tell them all eyes will be on you.  That might come across as insensitive.  Also, it isn’t completely true, as people will look at them walking down the aisle, (which is probably the biggest source of their anxiety.)  I agree with the rehearsal relieving them.  But also reassure them that everything will be fine if they don’t walk at the exact same pace, or hold their flowers with elbows resting exactly on their hips etc.  Sometimes those wedding coordinators make walking down the aisle sound like rocket science.

Post # 10
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I have a feeling the mimosas the day of will help!   emileee is right that all the attention is on you, so remind them of that in a funny way.  Plus, it’s like 30 seconds, max, so it shouldn’t be too bad…I’m sure they’ll be fine!

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