- 10 years ago
I am completely losing it. I got engaged in February. One of the first people I called was my best friend of 20 years. Soon after that, I asked her to be my maid of honor. She said yes, of course. We have been talking about being each other’s MOHs for as long as I can remember. I planned my wedding date around her – she is graduating from law school in May so I made sure to pick a date between when she graduates and when she has to start bar review. I picked this date just so that she could be there with me on my wedding day – I wanted a wedding later in the summer, but I gave that up to fit her shedule and picking this date meant that another good friend of FI’s (and mine) can’t come to the wedding. But she is my best friend, so the most important thing was for her to be there. We discussed the date multiple times and she said that it would be perfect. Today she called me and said that she has to go to pre bar review and the only time that she can do it is the weekend of my wedding (she lives across the country so there is no way for her to do both). I don’t know what to do. I am sad, hurt, and beyond angry. There are no words to describe how I am feeling. My wedding is just over 9 months away, and it just isn’t possible to change the date at this point. Am I the one being unreasonable to be upset here? Any of you lawyerly ladies out there – is pre-bar review really that important? What do I do??? How do I get over the fact that my best friend won’t be my maid of honor, won’t be there on my wedding day?? I’m already likely going to be mom-less on the day (for lots of long, complicated reasons) – I just feel as though there’s no way it can be what I want it to be now – not really surrounded by the people I love most. How do I pick myself up and look forward to a wedding that is now going to be seriously lacking? And how do I forgive her?