- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Have any of you other waiting bees found that “waiting” has caused you to be completely insecure? Instead of being excided you are so nervous that it won’t happen?
My boyfriend is great. He set a timeline 11 months ago that we would “have the engagement discussion” in February 2012 if all went well (we only were dating 6 months at the time). Over the past year we have developed the kind of relationship I always dreamed of having. We have had the big talks– combining finances, raising kids, my name, and where we want to live. I sort of expected a ring at Christmas and on New Year’s Eve I was having a really bad waiting day. He got a single bitchy comment about “I know it isn’t happening tonight, I’m okay with it, but I am dreading that tomorrow everyone is going to ask me if we are engaged”. The next night he brought up that he was planning to start searching for rings, asked for my input, and we agreed to get engaged on the once in a lifetime vacation we are going on at the end of February.
Everything should be great, right? He wants to marry me. He brought it up. He has the money to buy the ring. He has looked at the ring– it shows up on his ads on the internet. He has talked about the next stages after the ring (moving in together and the wedding). We have agreed when it is coming and it is coming this month. He has never disappointed me and has surprised me in the past. So why I am so insecure? Like all I can think about is worrying about how disappointed I will be when it doesn’t happen. I am logging way too many points on fitocracy because it keeps me away from browsing the recently purchased rings on Blue Nile. All signs point to it is happening, but I am so worried that he won’t propose and that I’ll end up ruining this fabulous vacation worrying about getting engaged.
Do you have any suggestions to get it off my mind? And it is totally out of the question to ask my father if my boyfriend happened to have the talk with him? I would rather have the “I didn’t get the ring and I really wanted it now” pity party before the trip than on the plane ride home…