(Closed) Neurotic dress syndrome?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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5399 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think you’re being neurotic at all.  I think you deserve the experience of trying dresses on, so I think you should make an appointment for when your Maid/Matron of Honor is in town.  Invite her, your mother, your Future Mother-In-Law, and if you have any FSILs, and see out of all those ladies who would be interested in going.  Explain to any of them who may think that you are looking too soon that for some place it actually takes 6+ months after you order your dress for it to come it, so it’s actually better you start looking now versus later (don’t be like me a do it at the last minute — you’ll surely regret it like I did because it’s just a huge added stress).  It’s a bummer that your grandma can’t go, but I think it would be great for whoever goes with you to take lots of pictures, that way you can come back from trying dresses on and share those photos with your grandma.  I think it would be a great way for her to still be part of the experience even if she can’t physically go.  I hope you are able to figure out something that will work for you and your family and I’m sure the hive would love to see photos of the dresses you try on after you go out looking! 🙂 

Post # 4
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826 posts
Busy bee

i kinda had the similar situation to where my parents were really interested in the wedding dress shopping idea. so i went ahead and took 2 of my best friends and 2 of my childhood friends who live next door to me. they were really helpful but they didnt fill that void of my mom not being there. I went ahead and bought my first dress which i showed my mom but she didnt seem that happy. so i sold it and bought a second dress which she kinda liked but didnt really show any emotion. when i came accross my 3rd and final dress i showed her the pics of me in it and she seemed happier. My mom works 6 days a week long days so i know that when she has that day off all she wants to do is relax. what i can say is go and try those dresses on and take pics and show them to your family and see what they have to say and im sure that your mom will feel that she missed out on that experience when u show her those pics. I took my mother in law and she nearly cried so it felt good to have an almost mother be there for me.. so maybe you can take your mother in law?

Post # 6
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2205 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so glad your mom agreed to go!  I can’t say my mom was thrilled to go dress shopping (she hates all shopping in general), but she got totally emotional while dress shopping my baby is really getting married type stuff) and was really sweet and helpful!

The support was huge for me!  Looking forward to hearing how things go.

Post # 7
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7053 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

My mom isn’t going dress shopping with me but my bff is when she gets in town and sis is the first weekend in april.

I am so happy your mom went with you!  And do go w/your Maid/Matron of Honor too!  I’m so happy you’re going to have this time with them.  You certainly do deserve the opportunity to have that time to try on a dress, try on many dresses and feel wonderful and supported doing so.

What I will say is that I went myself trying on a few dresses without anybody and think it’s a bad idea.  Kind of like going to go buy a car without a second person (like my FI) as backup to ensure you’re getting a good deal and kicking those tires around really well!  

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