(Closed) Never again?

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Would you be able to abstain from sex.....forever??
    Yep! : (54 votes)
    35 %
    Hell no! : (93 votes)
    60 %
    Other-please explain? : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Honestly, it would suck hardcore, but I love my Fiance and I know he’d do the same for me.  It’s not about the sex, but it does help to have a healthy sex life.  It definitely wouldn’t be the end of my world though.

    Post # 4
    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I have endo too and as a result sometimes it causes intensely painful sex. My Darling Husband has said multiple times he would still love me and be with me til the day I die if my vagina just fell off completely. To us sex is just a small part of our marriage, and as much as we enjoy it now, if it ever became impossible that would not mean the end of us. There are so many ways to stay connected and feel intimate with one another without actual penetration so I think if it ever happened we would be just fine.

    Post # 5
    631 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    As long as we could use toys and touch each other and such, I think we would be okay. I agree with PP that it would totally suck hardcore, but if all we’re avoiding is penetration I think we could handle it. If there was like no touching ever then yea I couldn’t make it lol

    Post # 6
    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think making the choice to never have sex again would end up causing serious problems down the road.


    I think not being able to have sex due to a physical impairment would be so much easier to handle. 


    I love my almost husband more than anything, and I’d try to make it work with all my might no matter what… but can defintely see some problems with making the choice to abstain.

    Post # 7
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I tried this hypothetical with my Fiance and I couldn’t come up with one solid reason why we could never have sex again. He said if I became sick he would understand but I wouldn’t be sick forever. He refuses to answer based on that fact lol. It would cause issues I’m sure reardless of which side it happened to but there are other things besides sex that we can do to be intimate.

    Post # 8
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    For Fiance for a physical reason, yes. 

    For an emotional reason, we’d try counseling first. 

    For a random just cause? That doesn’t make sense to me. 

    Post # 9
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I could make it work, but I don’t think he’d ever be happy.  He LOVES sex (well…duh) and seems to mentally need to do it.  Most of the time I could take it or leave it (oh thanks, birth control pill).

    Post # 10
    2825 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    darn… I voted before I actually read your post… I voted “hell no” but I was thinking it would be “just because”…  if it was a medical issue or it was painful/unenjoyable for one of us, and we could do other things then by all means I would and could.  I love my husband and he loves me, it would suck… but it wouldn’t be a deal breaker.

    Post # 11
    7293 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I guess as long as there are toys included, manual stimulation, oral options and even anal then its not the end of the world- but thats coming from me the female. If I don’t have the medical condition, then technically I could still have vaginal penetration without his penis with the use of a dildo or whatever crazy penis things they have out today.


    Now if it was me with the medical issue, I couldn’t speak for a male because I don’t know what its like to have a penis or what it needs. 

    Post # 12
    3770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I would be able to abstain, but it would definitely affect our relationship.  But like pp have said, there are other ways other than straight up intercourse to enjoy each other.


    Post # 13
    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldnt miss it. I can live without it for sure. After I had a baby my sex drive vanished and never returned.

    Post # 14
    2144 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t be happy about it and it would be really difficult, but if it were because of a physical problem, I would try my best to deal with it. I know I would be irritable all the time because of it.

    Post # 15
    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Eva Peron: “whatever crazy penis things they have out today” <– this made me laugh out loud very literally 🙂

    I don’t really know.  I don’t think we would ever just “decide” to not have penetration ever again just because we were meh about it.  If there was a medical issue, then certainly we’d work around it, though.  For both of us, sex is important, but it’s not essential.  

    I do know a couple, however, where he was in a car accident very early on in their relationship.  He suffers from various disabilities now, and they are unable to have sex.  I’m not sure if they do other things, or not, but anyway, they are very happily married now and have been for several years.  They are 20 somethings too, so it’s certainly shown me that marriage and love can be made of more than just sex.

    Post # 16
    4275 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    It depends on the circumstances, but generally NO!

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