(Closed) Never been so hurt before. I can’t stop crying

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 92
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Annonybee123:  You yourself said your mother is cold. You don’t deserve this. She is manipulating you again. I know this sounds like a broken record but ignore her.

The best revenge is to have a great wedding day. Smile and bask in the love  you have for your new husband.

Have someone else host your bridal shower or heck YOU host it. Screw etiquette at this point. You and your Fiance prepare it, invite loved ones over, and play fun games and have a great time!

For your wedding, get dressed with your bridal party. She doesn’t need to be there. Heck I wouldn’t give her a flower. I wouldn’t make her part of the procession. Let her find a seat like the rest of the guests. Start the wedding with the processional with the bridal party maybe.

Post # 94
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Annonybee123:  That’s good you refuse to be a victim anymore. People like that thrive when someone is misrable.

Post # 96
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87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@LuvMySailor:  Just like my mom. Her skin tone literally improves when I am miserable.

Post # 97
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649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The fact that YOU DID NOT WANT A BIG WEDDING and your family bullied you into one…and NOW they don’t want to pay for it is ridiculous!!!!!!!

 

And you being a bridezilla?  I’m sure it’s just your mom is angry she’s not getting her way in some way…

 

I have found that weddings bring out the crazy in people…(between my mom, my sister and my Future Sister-In-Law it’s been nuts around here)

 

I feel your pain….If i were you, I’d elope…then I would have just a big party at your venue..:D

Post # 98
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880 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My mother has narcissistic qualities, so I really sympathise with you. It’s so sad to read this thread and it’s all too familiar as well.

I agree with PP that I think you should CANCEL EVERYTHING.

 

Take a deep breath.

Start again. Without her.

 

People can’t be allowed to get away with this kind of behavior. Even mothers.

Post # 99
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Blushing bee

Oh dear. My mom and I had a super close relationship, and she sadly passed away 3 years ago from cancer. My Mother-In-Law is the craziest woman I know.

DH and I wanted to get married on a cruise ship with our bridal parties and be done with it. She insisted on us having a big wedding and offered to help pay for the cost. She didnt give one penny towards our wedding, neither did his father. My father is a raging alcoholic who I dont contact a lot, so he didnt help either. DH and I ended up paying over $20,000 for a wedding we didnt even want! We didnt get a honeymoon because we had such a big wedding. Our guest list thanks to his Mother-In-Law was 235 people. We were trying to please everyone.

She cursed me out and made me cry on my wedding. She ruined it my rehearsal dinner, and my wedding. To this day, when I think of my wedding, I think of her and her crazy self. DH and I cut her out of our life after the wedding and barely speak to her. The first time we saw her was 6 months later when we went out to dinner for Easter. I said maybe 2 words. She still hasnt apologized and plays the “victim”. My family is very polite, very conversative. My aunt went to introduce herself to his mom at our wedding and was told “to go fuck yourself”.

Cut her out, you dont need negativity. I know shes your mom, but seriously, fuck her.

Post # 100
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Worker bee

@Annonybee123: I know this is mean but the way she treated you is unacceptable and I would give her a taste of her own medicine. If you are feeling revengeful or spiteful you could do the following:  I would just not show up to the shower. I would also email everyone else but your mom about the shower being canceled like your Fiance family and your friends. Looks like your mom does things to look good in front of others so this should be a great way to expose her.

Post # 102
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9985 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Annonybee123:  So sorry to hear this!  Sounds like she just needs to grow up.  Good luck!

Post # 103
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Bee Keeper

@Annonybee123:  *Hugs* I’m sorry.

I am glad that you are standing up for yourself. You go on and plan your wedding the way you want it and don’t includer her.  From reading your posts and other people’s posts, it makes me really sad that a mother could treat a daughter that way. It makes me realize how blessed I am.

Post # 104
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Annonybee123:  Hi dear!

I hope everything went great with your wedding!

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