- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I’ll paint the picture for you then I’d love your opinion..
So I’m not very close with my mom or her immdeiate family. My mom was busy not being a mom most of my life and I thankfully had other family to welcome me. Sometimes we talk, but after twenty years I don’t care. I had a different mother figure to love me and I won’t just bond with my biological one just because she gave birth to me.
My dislike for my moms sisters/mom is pretty extreme. They are the kind of people who constantly think you should give them money and help them in everyway possible, but they owe you nothing. None of them graduated high school, but they insist that they knowing EVREYTHING. Spend money on going out, not their kids, you get it. They down talk everything about me, just not to my face. The comments are endless.. Like how I’m spoiled by my great grandparents and great aunt(not a total lie, but they raised me so they are my parents really.)
I would rather not have them at my wedding, but I figured to avoid drama I would invite them and their kids. My counsins are all around my age so they didn’t fall under the no kid rule. Except one. She’s ten and I’ve only seen her a hand full of times and honestly.. I forgot about her until I was confronted.
My four nephews, FI’s two little brothers, and four little cousins (not to these family members ) that I spent my time baby sitting and see almost weekly are invited.
When our STD’s went out I received a Facebook (ha) message asking me about it. And I was honest… I said we aren’t allowing people to bring their children because that would double our guest list. Everyone has a kid or two or three.. And with a self serve alcohol situation I’d rather not just welcome everyone. But we did invite a hand full because they are close to us. Maybe this is bridezilla of me, but it’s my wedding. These almost strangers are not paying for it or do I even think that they care that I’m getting married.
After that they “threatened” to not come if I don’t invite the child. Normally, I’d say fine it’s no big deal bring her.. BUT These are people who I can’t stand and for them to think that they control my guest list makes me angry. So I said that I didn’t care. If they choose to come celebrate with us then that’s great, if not it won’t ruin my day.
I thought I was over this and I tried not to think about it. Yesterday my sister told me that they were talking about it during a get together about how they just won’t come and blah blah blah. I just wish they wouldn’t I could easily fill their spots. If your willing to not come because your little child that doesn’t even live with you isn’t invited then I’m sure it didn’t mean that much to you anyway.
I’d love to be crazy and tell them they aren’t invited at all and break all ties to finally make myself happy, but I guess that’s extreme.. What do I do? Get over my anger and if they come they come, not invite them, or am I actually in the wrong?
Be real with me. You won’t hurt my feelings. 🙂