(Closed) Never ending family drama

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think your out of line at all. I don’t agree with the whole all or nothing thing idea on this. You should be able to invite those your close to or not. They say they won’t come then a ” you’ll be missed” should be forthcoming. Their choice. You have no apology to make as it’s your wedding and your money. I don’t understand parents sometimes and I am one.

Post # 5
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123 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe I’m just a big meanie, but I’m sick and tired of people feeling like they need to put up with toxic friends and family to keep the peace, not hurt feelings, etc.  If these people are awful (they sound like they are!) and if you don’t want a relationship with them (sounds like you don’t) then I say don’t invite them.  You’d probably be cutting ties for good if you uninvite them, but maybe that’s what you want.

Your other option is to just wait for their RSVP.  Hopefully it comes back “no”.

Option 2 is better in regards to etiquette and being all PC.  Maybe I’m wrong, but if I were in your shoes I’d say “screw it”, uninvite them, remove them from my life and be a lot happier as a result. 

Post # 8
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@Squee-diddly-dee:  I have to agree with this.

My Fiance has a couple of ‘friends’ that quite frankly, are nowhere near what I call a friend. The amount of crap he has put with from these people is incredible.  He rarely has a good thing to say about them…so why is he still ‘friends’ with them?  To me it’s crazy.

I cut my father out of my life 23 years ago.  I’d hardly known him for 10 years before that.  People don’t understand when I say I don’t miss him….I often get ‘you will regret it when he dies’  I doubt I will even know when he dies.  He could be dead now.

You are not wrong.  If you feel that you want to cut all contact by not inviting them, do it.

 

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