Post # 1
I’m really tired, which is probably why I’m stuck on this, but I wanted to share with someone. I’ll just go right to the point.
A bunch of my friends are having or have just had their first kids now. A bunch. Like, 5-6 of my closest ones. I’m super happy for them. I love babies. I love shopping for baby things for them.
But today I heard some of them talking about the “Momma club” (to the newest expecting) and I got this wierd pang. I didn’t say anything. It kind of surprised me.
We want a kid. When we’re financially stable enough to have one. I’m 100% with that still. But I still feel sad. I feel left behind. I didn’t feel this way when so many of my friends got married before. I was totally fine with where I was.
I just feel.. really far away from where I want to be. 🙁
Post # 3
@atalante: ((((HUGS)))) It can be so frustrating to feel “left behind.” However, you mentioned the key to your situation in your post: We want a kid. When we’re financially stable enough to have one.
Take comfort in the fact that you are with someone who is wonderful, and that the two of you are on the same page. As much as it might hurt to not be a part of the “club,” it will be so much more wonderful when you do join the club and are ready to.
Post # 4
@Papillon23: I know, you’re right. That is a really good outlook. I think I just needed to put the feeling out there in some way, and WB was it. I don’t want to put this on my BFs, and I talk to Fiance about everything, but I don’t feel OK bringing this up because I don’t want him to feel like I’m trying to change “the plan.”
I think when I get a full night’s sleep, I’ll be able to let go of it. :
Post # 5
@atalante: Ahhh, posting on WB and then getting a good night’s rest = best feel-better remedy EVER! 🙂
Post # 6
Don’t take it personally. They’re saying it to be inclusive.
When Fiance and I got engaged, our married friend told Fiance “Welcome to the club. The decoder ring is in the mail.”
I thought it was super cute but I don’t think it is meant to offend anyone that isn’t engaged. I think sometimes we’ve got to step back and be a little less sensative. Your feelings are totally valid but I think this is a case where your head needs to rule over the heart.
Post # 7
@atalante: I know how you feel. *hugs*