(Closed) Never look at the Cadillacs when you're going to buy the Toyota

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mistress_anne:  Is the option you can afford affordable because of the stone, or because of the design of the ring itself? He might be willing to create a custom piece with a stone of your choosing.

If you haven’t yet, check Etsy. It’s where we found mine (my ideals were along the same as yours – I wanted something silver, Celtic, independent jeweler, and moissanite). 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Oof, sorry for the huge picture, thought I’d figured out how to crop and resize :-/

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Just be aware that sterling silver isn’t a good metal for a ‘forever’ ring like an engagement ring. It’s too soft. Most jewelers won’t even work with it, so I’d be a little skeptical of the quality if sterling silver is even offered as an option.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mistress_anne:  That’s beautiful!!! Is that the stone you wanted too? If that’s the gold version, I think you’ll definitely save a few hundred (at least!) switching it to silver (there was a $600 difference between mine in silver vs. white gold). It can’t hurt to ask the seller – in my experience they’ve been really willing to customize things to fit exactly what you want! I doubt he’d think you were committed to buying it just because you asked about it, especially since you’re asking for a slightly different ring.

As for your fiance, he wants you to be happy with your ring – as long as he likes this one too (and you can find a way to get it down to your price point), I don’t think it would hurt to tell him that you like Ring A, Ring B, and Ring C, but the one above is your favorite. In the end the choice is still his, but he knows you best ๐Ÿ™‚

You’ll love whatever he gives you because he *did* give it to you, but my fiance told me he was relieved when we found mine together and I told him I liked it best! It saved him some decision making and he knew I’d be thrilled when I got it.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If its only a few hundred over you might want to consider waiting a tad longer and getting it in gold. It’s a much stronger metal. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Eden Di Bianco:  Thank you!!! I’m so in love with it lol.

 

As for the silver vs. white gold, there are pros and cons to both. I have a white gold ring from Jared that I’ve only had for a year, and you can already see some yellow gold showing through on the inside and a bit on the outer base where it rubs the most. It still looks fine but I’ll have to get it re-dipped at some point. I personally have two great silversmiths in my area if anything ever goes wrong with my e-ring, so that also played into our decision ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Angel Orensanz Foundation

@mistress_anne:  He’s already found something (someONE) he truly loves.  The rest–with the ring anyway–will all fall into place.  There’s sure to be some wiggle room in this situation, so don’t get up hopes too high but don’t despair, either.  And I LOVE blue/other colored stones, they definitely catch the eye differently. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mistress_anne:  I’m sure it’ll work out perfectly ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck with both the ring and with grad school! *Shudder* been there, done that, don’t miss it!

In case you haven’t seen this yet, it’s painfully accurate, funny, and not e-ring related whatsoever ๐Ÿ™‚  http://www.phdcomics.com/comics.php?f=1553

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

if the guy is on etsy, it wouldn’t hurt to ask if there’s anything he can do to work with you guys. Maybe if you had a lab created stone instead of natural, or used a CZ (which are dirt cheap and wouldn’t be as susceptible to damage in that setting) or something.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Angel Orensanz Foundation

@mistress_anne:  Aside from being a married lady, I’m also a wedding vendor (I do hair, makeup, and skin care as well as personal shopping and styling), but really…so much of the stuff around weddings is SO overblown and you start to wonder what if you this, what if you that, if only we had….

It’s enough to drive you mad, and I caught myself doing it over stuff even though on the other side of things and being “in the biz” I should know better!  And in 20 years, it will be nothing more than something you two will look back at fondly as part of your wedding planning jitters.  Keep us posted!!! Good luck!

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