(Closed) never sent thank you notes! ticked off

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
526 posts
Busy bee

@laurelewrigley:  Hmmm, are you SURE she knows better?  I got married at 21, and I never sent thank you’s.  I didn’t know I was supposed to, since I had a receiving line and said thank you to everyone in person.

Post # 5
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377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Some people are just rude. Rise above it if you are friends because a friendship shouldnt depend on gifts and thankyou notes, if you want her at your wedding you should invite her regardless and if she doesnt show after RSVPing yes this time maybe its time to re-evaluate but i would give her the benefit of the doubt and stay the adult, oh and of course i know you will but send her a thankyou note for the gift when she comes to your wedding lol

Post # 6
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7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Why invite her if she has a flaky history? Then you have no reason to complain. She sounds rude if she couldn’t even send out thank you notes.

Post # 8
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2335 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You can’t control how others behave (as much as I have tried), you can only control how you respond to others.  Venting is cool, but I think you’ve got to let her BS roll off your back or lose her as a friend.

 

Post # 9
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8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would NEVER say something unless it was my sister or something. However, I would stop attending her events and/or giving gifts if it really bothered me.

Post # 10
Member
776 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That would be a deal breaker for me – ungrateful people drive me bananas. After that kind of behavior I’d probably not invite her to the wedding. It sounds like she’s using you because you’re letting her 🙁

 

Post # 11
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Some people are just rude or don’t care. My cousin’s Girlfriend is like that, she never sent out thank you’s for her baby shower. She didn’t verbally say thank you to anyone either, including my aunt who hosted the party.

 

It just makes her look bad, I would just forget it.

Post # 12
Member
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@laurelewrigley:  why do you keep inviting her/engaging her on some level?

Post # 13
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2600 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@laurelewrigley:  Yep.  She’s greedy and a liar.  She didn’t owe you a gift of course but to lie about sending one and then lie again so you’d come to her shower is something else. 

I wouldn’t invite her to the wedding.  In fact, I’d lose her number. 

Post # 14
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2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

thank you notes are not about age! good grief, from the time i could write boxing day morning my mum would plunk me down with some cards and i’d scrawl out thank you cards for my gifts. i still to this day, write thank you cards (i’m 24) for presents – that is a given, of course you would thank someone for a gift. 

she is just rude. 

Post # 16
Member
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@laurelewrigley:  seems to me that youre either good enough friends to approach her about it (or at least gently tease and then segue into serious) or not good enough friends where she doesnt make too much of a difference in your life. If she was a good enough friend in my book, I;d say something. and If she wasnt, I’d question my judgment on staying “friends” with her.

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