- 6 years ago
Hi, I’m 26 and obviously now at the age where a lot of friends are getting married so was very happy to hear of 4 over the last year and for this year.
– first wedding – best friend in university, housemate for 4 years, we meet up every year, send gifts etc
was told by bride she wanted us involved to do readings and things – out of the group of 3 I was only one not chosen to be involved.
– 2nd wedding – best guy mate in university – I intro’d him to our group of friends and know his fiance well too.
Invited as evening guest – all others in our group invited to full day
-3rd upcoming wedding 2 girls (one have known since we were 3, the other since I was 12) again not included in wedding, but a girl who only joined our friend group at 18 has been asked to be bridesmaid.
by this point the hurt was racking up…
-4th wedding: best mate in uni (one who participated in 1st wedding), the girl I thought I was closest to, at another wedding whispered to me – I think (boyf) is going to ask me to marry him!!! and I’m gonna choose (other housemate who is unmarried) to be my maid of honour!!!!!I smiled but was upset.
Thinking I might still be invited to take part as (wishful thinking) bridesmaid, or even for a reading or something, sent email saying I was available to help if needed.
think that I have been left out again….
I only have a small group of close friends – out of 4 girls in uni, 3 girls in school – I’m wondering if there’s something that I’m doing that is ‘unacceptable’ to be wedding party material.
frankly though, I do find it upsetting, especially when I find out that I’m lobbed onto the tables with boring people, when all of my friends are up having a laugh together…
it’s making me not want to have any of them at my future wedding in retaliation – that or showing up like a slut (not too much, but enough to get some attention) because I’m starting to feel invisible.
🙁 am I the only one here? or is it they are being shitty with me?