- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
Hi everyone, I am new here, and basically found this website during a Google search. I would appreciate any advice on whether I should actually fire one of my bridesmaids (I’ll call her Diana). It sounds horrible to even write it but this girl crossed the line with me.
About a month ago, Diana and I were having dinner. Suddenly, out of nowhere, Diana starts trashing my sister to me. My sister is the Maid/Matron of Honor and is my best friend in the universe. We are practically twins. Diana knows this. Yet she said some nasty things about my sister that I can’t seem to get over.
About a month ago, my sister was pregnant and due any minute. She had told Diana that she wished for a normal delivery and not a c section, because one of her childhood friends was getting married in a week, and my sister wished to attend the ceremony. She hoped to have a smooth, uncomplicated delivery so she could at least try to celebrate part of her friend’s wedding while our mom watched the newborn.
Diana said to me a few days later, “What is wrong with your sister, my jaw almost hit the floor, she obviously has no idea how this baby will affect her life. How could she dare think of going to a wedding ceremony one week after giving birth. If she wanted to go to the wedding that badly, she should have planned her pregnancy around it.”
This to me was a like a slap to the face.
Since then, she has told me that she finds my sister pushy, and told me I should leave her home for bridesmaid dress shopping. She also said she thinks my mom is pushy and I should start excluding my mother from wedding plans. This all came out of nowhere. I kind of took it and never stood up for myself because everytime this happened it was like being punched in the stomach- and I was in almost in disbelief. Is she insane? Telling me to leave the Maid/Matron of Honor at home for bridesmaid dress shopping?
The last straw was when she emailed me about her weight loss. She knows I am breaking my neck trying to go to boot camp, work out, and diet for my wedding. She is trying to lose weight as well. Every time she loses a pound, she lets me know via email. “Down to 165!” “Down to 163!” Meanwhile I am stuck in the 170’s trying to lose but having a harder time.
Then she emailed me and asked if I had any smaller clothes laying around my house that I wouldn’t mind giving to her because she was losing weight at a rapid pace and couldn’t afford to buy new stuff in smaller sizes. I felt really bad after that, like she was rubbing it in my face. The girl can afford to buy new clothes at TJ Maxx or Target or something. She just wanted me to know she was getting skinnier than me (this is at least what I think).
I am ready to cut the cord. The worst is the stuff she said about my sister- I can’t seem to let it go and it has been a little over a month since she said those things. She can hate my sister all she wants, but why would she tell ME about it? I have not been able to look at her the same since.
No dresses has been purchased yet. All that I have done is ask her to be in the wedding, but other than that, nothing has happened. I have known her two years.
I would appreciate any feedback and I’m sorry this was so long. I guess I’m just trying to figure out if there is any reason to keep her beyond avoiding the dramatic fallout. And wonder what others’ opinions are on why someone would start behaving this way. Thank you, everyone, and I hope whoever out there is planning a wedding is having a smooth time– I have realized it definitely is not that easy!