- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
I have read posts from other bees about drama in their wedding party and honestly i used to read them and offer kind words but graciously think “wow, im glad i dont have any problems with any of my girls” but just when i thought….i do.
Im going to keep this as short as possible. My moh called me on Thursday and left me a message and at the end of the message she got a bit emotional because she planned on doing all these great things for me and my shower and b-ette party but had some financial things happen that were unexpected and she is feeling bad that she cant do anything elaborate and she knew from the beginning i dont need anything huge. We have had this conversation several times.
Well, i was at school signing up when she called and i was there forever and afterwards i went with my mom to pick up the odds and ends for my shower and was gone all day and it slipped my mind that she called me.
By the time i remembered it was the next day and she was working so i didnt want to bother her and next thing you know it was 11pm.
So sat night she called me at about 1145pm and i had a early church thing but i answered only for her to tell me that being my friend was awful and she doesnt think she should be my moh.
I apologized over and over for not calling her back and she said that if i called her upset she would call me back immediately. Which is true, and usually i do but i have had alot going on as well.
she said she couldnt imagine what i cold have going on that is so important that i couldnt take a minute out and leave her a message even if she is working no matter what time if night it is.
Ok, true. but im sorry! super sorry and she said she was waiting for me to say something profound that would make it all right and sorry wasnt good enough.
ok bees, she wanted us to have a couple days to think about it and we are suppose t talk today, i want her to be my moh, thats why i chose her, i have less than 2 months before my wedding. She says she will help me with anything i want but doenst feel like i love her like a friend or moh should.
i feel like my wedding has been an inconvenience to her so i have picked up the bill for everything so she didnt have to but part of me is still mad that she is acting this way and if she doesnt want to be my moh how can i still have her stand up with me? Its not like i demoted her, its like she demoted herself.
My fiance and i have alot going on as well, neither of us are working, im about to start school, he is having custody issues with his ex for his kids, crazy financial stress, we are trying to put a wedding together and we didnt expect to be under this much stress either while planning a wedding.
i feel like she should be acting like my moh, im not hers!!!
what do i do?? sorry i tried to make it short