- 8 years ago
**Disclaimer!! This get’s long!**
Okay, I’ve officially become one of those girls that’s wondering if perhaps her SO is nearing popping the question. I never thought I would be, but here I am, and here’s why:
A few weeks ago he made a comment about how I’m never home on the weekends. Which he’s right, for the last few months I haven’t been. I work during the week, a Mon-Fri 9-5’er, and he works retail so he always works weekends. So come the weekend, it’s my time to have fun, and I’m not going to sit and wait around for him to get home to do it. Not to mention, 9 out of 10 times, he doesn’t want to do what I want to go do anyways. We talked further about it and another part of the reason it upsets him is because our deal is I clean, and he pays the bills. And for the last few months I haven’t been doing this before I go out and play. I explained to him that I don’t mind cleaning (mopping, dusting, vacuuming, and so on), but that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have to pick up after himself. I realize that I too make a mess, I’m infamous for cluttering the kitchen table with mail and my purse, and our dresser with clothes I’ve worn once and would like to wear again; but he’s not perfect either. He doesn’t put his dishes in the dishwasher (if they even make it to the kitchen) he leaves his recycling out, and so on. So, come the new year, I will be helping with the utility bills to the best of my financial ability (I take home about $20K/yr) and he will begin helping with chores.
Now, I realize for most people, this doesn’t sound like a reason for him to pop the question, but I think since we agreed to start splitting things more fairly, perhaps he’s feeling more like we’re a team, and I’m not just some freeloader girlfriend. He is very money conscious, and although he probably won’t ever admit it, I seriously have always thought that he won’t want to get married until I can show him that I am a financial partner as well as a girlfriend. And you know what? I’m okay with that. I’ve had it good for the last 2 years in our house: I’m responsible for my own bills and have a roof over my head that I don’t have to pay for; it had to end sometime. And if there’s a ring on the otherside, well put those utilities in my name TOMORROW!
Anyways, fast forward a few weeks, and he’s been sneaking a lot of peeks and giving a lot of input when I’m lurking on the “rings” boards. He’s been giving a lot of unprovoked opinions and asking a lot of questions.
Then, just a few nights ago we were watching “Serendipity”. He not only commented/guessed the diamond shape of the engagement rings, but he also commented that they were gorgeous, and come time for the engagement (anybody remember the big box that contains many smaller boxes down to the ring box for Kate Beckinsale’s proposal?) he goes on to say “hey! That was my idea, now you’re going to think I stole it from this movie, and I’ve never even seen it!” He seemed almost genuinely bummed! And then, when I nudged him with my foot and did one of these, *cough*”I’m a 5 1/2″*cough*. He was like, “I though you were a 7 1/2, like your shoe size”. Big flag considering YEARS ago he bought me a pair of men’s skate shoes (that I still own) and they were 6 1/2’s, and I was like “ooh, just like my ring size”. Which, turns out is way to big in the world of real jewelry and not the cheapo jewelry from Target. But still, HE REMEMBERED!
And then last night we went and picked up my promise ring from Zales (6 month replating) and he lingered AGAIN at the engagement section, asked a lot of questions of “do you like this”, and “I like this one”, and pointed to a gorgeous solitaire EASILY over a carat and was like, “ooh, this one is really pretty”. (Granted, he also did this 6 months ago at it’s last replating, but c’mon!) On the way home I was talking about how I hate having to replate my ring every 6 months and told him about metals that don’t require it, and he joked that he was just going to get me a stainless steel ring with the best CZ I’ve ever seen; joked it’d be the “best $50 I spend”. To which I replied, “or we could just use the ring I already have and it’s FREE!” His respone? “Feel free to switch hands whenever you feel like being engaged”, (I wear my promise ring on my right hand). I just told him he had to ask me first.
Sorry, my brain is spinning out. I’m not expected a ring for Christmas by any means, and in fact, aren’t expecting anything at least for another 6 months. I’ve always told myself that it probably wouldn’t click with him until after he turns 25 in July, but jeepers! Talk about getting a girl all worked up! He needs to stop talking this ring nonsense ASAP! I was doing so well not bugging him about it and he’s going to go and pull this crap right before the holidays?! Oy yoy yoy!