Never thought I'd do this…

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@blustarlet15:  I can TOTALLY relate.  I saw myself in an all-over lace type gown, and absolutely positively NOT strapless.  My dress is much simpler than I would have envisioned and it is strapless!  But I fell for it’s elegance and sophisticated style. 

As for the BM’s dresses, I originally wanted long and now I’m going short.  I originally wanted mint green or celadon with pink and peach flowers.  Since I couldn’t find the right color green in the right price range, I think I’m going with lavender dresses instead, and am now unsure about the flowers.  Since I am going with purple dresses now, my dream bridal bouquet (white peonies tinged with light pink) is going to have to be reworked.

We wanted a Downton Abbey-esque, very vintage feel.  While we will still have the same level of elegance and sophistication we were originally going for, things are turning out a bit more modern-feeling than we planned for. 

All in all, these are small details and everything is going to be beautiful–just different than what I had in my head to begin with!

Post # 4
1814 posts
Buzzing bee

I have to be honest here and I want to be really nice about it, but my prom dress from 1978 had that same kind of ruffle at the bottom and that is the first thing I thought of when I saw the dress.  I love the rest of the dress, but that ruffle just looks wierd and out of date to me.

Post # 7
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@blustarlet15:  I’m actually very surprised by my enthusiasm for flowers, too.  I love flowers in everyday life, but I wasn’t too excited about picking them out for the wedding.  In the beginning I was sort of dismissive even, like oh it’s not big deal.  Fast forward a few months and flowers are all I can think about to the point that I ALMOST planned my BM dresses around the flowers…and then thought better of it, lol.

Post # 8
19 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think that is completely normal. My ex-roomate went through the same process. She wanted us in short-sweet royal blue garments with different styles. And we ended up in long, identical dresses. 
I think a bride has soo many options nowadays and I find that with time, your taste can change, specially if you started to plan your wedding with plenty of time.

I’ve gone through something similar so far (big day is 7 months away). I envisioned myself in a poofy, organza gown and I’m now wearing a classic lace number.


Don’t worry, I’m sure everything will be perfect and turn around for you anyways. 🙂 

Post # 9
1674 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

I did the same, Origianally wanted a fitted lazaro gown with very art deco detail, ruffels beading…a lot going on.  Then to save money I chose a ball gown and decided I wanted the girls in long blush chiffon dresses, had them picked out, then found very glamorous BM dresses in nude with beading and bling all over them, we decided to go with those, which happen to match my first dress perfectly, so I bought the first dress too!  Now I have two dresses, ceremony in ball gown, reception in the fitted dress, and our theme went from girly romatic to great gatsby.  This all happened in about 3 months, and I have just under a year until the wedding 🙂 

Post # 10
12257 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

It looks SO gorgeous!

Post # 11
2505 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I thought I wanted something way modern, but ended up choosing a fairly traditional all lace gown.  I wanted all different long dresses for the BM in yellow, but ended up going with the same plum short dress for all my girls.  I think it is just really hard to picture yourself as a bride until you are there trying things out, and once we see the right one we know it is for us

Post # 11
422 posts
Helper bee


Everything in fashion comes back every 25-30 years. Heaven knows, what they would do if they couldn’t bring things back. Design is limited by the human shape. We typically have two arms, two legs and a torso, and certain bits should be covered.

It may seem old-fashioned to you, because you wore the earlier version, but to the current generation who didn’t do that, it appears fresh and new. I remember wearing bubble skirts back in the 90s, and my mum laughed because they had previously been popular in the 60s. See? Every 30 years or so — just like clockwork 🙂

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