(Closed) New and Husband having issues TTC

posted 8 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
5669 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Does he know it’s your fertile window? Sometimes this happens to guys when they feel like they are under too much pressure. I would try not to share the details of TTC with him and just act as though you are turned on and want sex for no other reason just to have sex. I personally don’t know about the IUD issue, but I hope you start feeling like yourself again soon.

Post # 4
1713 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I know DH and I dont do well under pressure. Try to give it some time while just having great regular sex.

Post # 5
6995 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I would put money on it that he is feeling the pressure. Also i’m not sure about IUD but i know with BCP it takes a little bit for your body to become regular again so don’t get discouraged if it doesnt happen in the first month or two. Maybe just try going at it around your estimated o dates for a month or two and just enjoy it before diving into actual charting and temping?

Post # 6
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with PP.  We have had the issue where DH can’t get started or finish because of the stress this first month of TTC brings! I think next month I am going to keep it all to my self – as this month he knew I was waiting for that positive OPK and we had issues once I got one and we were rushed at the same time to get out the door to an event but it was the “right time” to BD.  It totally sucks! I don’t have many words for advice – but just want you to know you are not alone! Many couples face this issue and it seems if you keep the TTC details to yourself it helps your partner relax. 

Post # 7
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LuluH:  I keep track but never tell DH my fertile days.  I keep track and add in extra days when needed.  It worked great but now we have to use IVF due to MFI:(

Post # 8
1226 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This happened to us when we first started trying, but as DH got more used to the idea of a baby he seems to not be having problems with this even though he knows it’s “scheduled BD’ing.”  So maybe it will get better as your DH gets used to the idea.

Also, my DH said that sometimes the mornings right when waking up are easier because, err, things are already a bit “ready” and more on auto-pilot.

Post # 10
8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@LuluH:  This is only the first month. It’ll get easier! ๐Ÿ™‚

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