Post # 1
I just got engaged! We are trying to figure out a general time of year for our wedding. My problem is that my cousin, who is my age, got engaged in February of this year and set a date for March of 2013. I just got engaged this month and am wondering how far after her wedding should I plan mine so as to be respectful? I don’t want to steal any of her thunder, so to speak.
Post # 3
I would aim for at least a few months difference, as you do not want too many events happening at once. Ie: You don’t want your bridal shower to be the same month as her wedding, or your bridal showers to be in the same month, as it gets expensive for guests buying gifts, and you don’t want to take away from her day etc.
I would say aiming for late summer (August 2013) would be good. If you absolutely want it to be sonner, I would say July the soonest, but personally my feeling is that the further away from eachother, the better it is, for many reasons (family, money, respect, travel- if applicable, and you want each of you to feel completely special and seperate).
Thank all being said, if you absolutely had your heart set on April 2013 or something, I guess it’s not THAT big of a deal since your cousins (not siblings, which would be worse), so it COULD technically be closer if necessary.
A fall wedding would also be lovely, and can save you some money (b/c it’s off season).
Just my opinion
Post # 4
Later is better, but I would aim for at least June. I think if your wedding is in June then your bridal shower should be after her wedding. It depends a little bit on what type of affair you’re planning too though. A large formal affair should be further apart from her wedding than a small intimate wedding (because there will be less guest list overlaps). If you are planning a destination wedding I would make it later than June because your guests will have to travel further and spend more money on your wedding.
Post # 5
id vote for anything after june as well. but id probably pick july-august just to have a year for planning! our engagement was 11 months and i thought that was PERFECT for planning. if i had anything more i would have been bored and antsy. anything much less i would have been stressed. but thats just me and my personality. PP had great point about other events overlapping etc too. after june you should be in the clear!
Post # 6
Ok great. I want an October wedding and didn’t know if that would be too soon!
We live in different states and our family lives across the country so they have to fly twice!
Post # 7
I think Oct. is a good time period in between, especially since people will have to fly for both
Post # 8
Anytime after June 1 IMO.