(Closed) New baby and visitors?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Our parents are from out of town, so extended family will definitely find out something’s happened when they call to say they’re coming and need to stay at whatever relative’s house.  I honestly don’t think I’ll have much choice about everybody and their dog coming to the hospital, but I’m curious to hear how others handled it!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

When I had my baby in September, I actually enjoyed having visitors. The hospital had set visiting times, and Darling Husband wasn’t allowed to stay with me (boo!) So having visitors was a nice distraction from being bored! Visitors at home wern’t bad at all, I think I had maybe 2 visitors about 3 weeks after I got home? People were pretty good about giving me space.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Here you are discharged the day after you deliver ( if you have a vaginal delivery) so there really isn’t much time for hospital visiting.

I honestly don’t remember friends coming over the first couple of weeks except to drop off casseroles etc. Family who lived close enough dropped by but all phoned first.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Both of our sets of parents will come here once the baby is born and stay for a bit.  I am sure we will entertain neighbors and close friends a couple of days after we get home.  At my work, they set up a food calendar a week after the birth so the new parents have time to settle in before having visitors.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is a good question? My friends and family will know that if they are coming over not to expect a perfectlyclean house lol. I think we will have bettee things to do;)

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Well munchkin was born 7 weeks early so we spent 4 weeks in the NICU so visitor wise was only 2 besides the parents so 4 in total at a time and only during certain hours. Though we as parents had 24 hour access to seeing him. 

When we got home I had help from my mom for the first few weeks so that helped out. Basically everyone respected our wishes with visiting.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m just planning on asking everyone to give us some time and call before they want to come by to make sure its ok. Most of our friends know how private we are so I’m not too worried about it. My family is out of town and he doesn’t really talk to his.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We just had immediate family in the hospital (was there only 24 hours post-delivery), then friends started coming over a week later. People dropped by for short visits- I couldn’t walk very well and was really uncomfortable (tons of stitches), so short visits worked best!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I recall my Fiance told visitors I had a hard labour, so they all kind of figured a short visit would be best. 2 weeks after our son was born, my FI’s brother came to stay with us from out of town for the weekend. I still wasn’t feeling great, but it was nice to have him around. For the first two weeks though, short visits (like under an hour) were best.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I plan on making a sign saying different things, like ‘mommy and baby are resting’, and on the other side maybe a little list of things we would really like help with. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yeah, I plan on putting it right on the front door. It should also help prevent me/baby from being woken or simply disturbed when I am not in the mood by soliciters, neighbors, etc, unless if it is an emergency. Also, it should help people know that if they do want to visit, what I would really love help with (shower time, sweeping, meals) if they plan in staying for any amount of time. At the very least, they will be prepared for unwashed dishes, etc and I won’t feel so bad if the house is messy. The first months are not ideal for social visits. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@ghiagirl893: That is such a great idea with the sign! I will be stealing it. Although, I could see my in laws thinking that they are the exception. 🙁

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