(Closed) New baby and visitors?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 17
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Helper bee

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@ghiagirl893:  

You’re going to put a sign on your door asking your guests to do your housework??

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@padme:  No, I will not be straight up asking them to, but will have a list of ways they can help. Holding baby does not count as help. I will not be asking people as guests in the first months. Everyone always asks to help, so that way if someone wants to they will know what I would like help with. The only people who will see my and baby the first month or two will want to help. Its more to keep random drop ins to a minimum. I am more than willing to unload the dishwasher, bring a meal, or sweep for a new mama. 

Edited for wrong autocorrects

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@Peony007:  O no! I hope you have good luck with that. Hopefully Mother-In-Law will remember what it is like and not try to ‘help’ too much

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m really interested with the responses!!  I guess everyone has a different ‘normal’.  Both Fiance and I have large families (Italian) and when someone has a baby, EVERYONE comes to the hospital.  So for the women in our families, the hospital room is crazy during visiting hours due to family/friends coming and going.  Everyone is just sooooo excited I guess and want to see/hold the new addition.  Everyone usually brings a gift or flowers so that’s always nice.  Then the same happens once the couple leaves the hospital with bub… the first few days/weeks are full on with visitors coming and going.  I guess it would be overwhelming for some people.. but I see it as normal because that is all I know.  Fiance and I don’t have children yet so we still have plenty of time to look forward to this πŸ™‚ lol

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@ellebeerob:  I’m gonna be in the same boat-FIL is a pastor too, and they usually do meals and visit, etc. I’ll have to see what goes on, but I wouldn’t be opposed to making sure people call before they stop. I’m sure they would understand. I’m not far enough in to think about the visiting, but I would be ok with telling family only can visit at the hospital.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some if it depends on the kind of visitors. Like are these people you have to entertain or people that you dont mind asking to help with a chore. Are they bringing you dinner or are they expecting for you to provide some food for the visit?

My friend who just had a baby three months ago had both sets of parents staying with her so she had lots of help. She didnt feel obligated to entertain them. She invited us over right away and we brought them dinner withj extra for leftovers. We stayed about 3 hours and I helped her .do a few things in the nursery.  She was very excited we brought food

I would also state ahead of time if someone calls to visit your situation. Sure please come by, but we are a bit busy and would love your assistance with XYZ…  Or even, please! come by for X amount of time because then its time to do Z.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

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@ellebeerob:  Aww! We’ve talked briefly, but would tell our immediate family that we’re going to the hospital, but are only gonna have the 2 of is in the delivery room. If immediate family wants to come, they need to sit and wait in the waiting area, and then come in when we’re ready.

Post # 26
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@ellebeerob:  Whaaaaat? Who the eff needs to be ringing your doorbell once a day?! 

I could see myself making a sign. I don’t particularly like people coming over to begin with, so definitely laying ground rules would be a great idea. I’m sure Future Mother-In-Law and my grandma would come over and clean/bring us food, which I’m totally okay with, as long as it isn’t all the time.

I know when FI’s best friends had their baby, they sent out messages about visiting and whatnot. When Future Brother-In-Law and his wife had their baby, her parents stayed with them in their tiny one bedroom apartment for THREE WEEKS. Then we went to visit (they live in another state) with Future Father-In-Law and his wife and her parents wouldn’t leave (we thought they’d get a hotel room for the three days we were there), so we ended up on an air mattress on the living room floor, pushed up next to FBIL/his wife’s futon mattress where they slept, and the bassinet. MRGH.

 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i can say from experience (as i sit here holding my week old newborn) that visitors are suuuppeerrr overwhelming and i was not prepared at all. for the most part everyone has called ahead and been quite helpful… and honestly i am to the point where i have just been whipping my boob out and feeding lo whenever he is hungry etc… the first few days i tried  to schedule feedings and visits around oneanother but i am over that lol

my best advice would be just to go about your day as usual… visitors do not expect you to cater to them when they are visiting days after you give birth. so just do your thing! πŸ™‚

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@ellebeerob:  I would have an anxiety attack if people just stopped by for long periods of time like that… I actually don’t like anyone just stopping by. Maybe with each person stopping by you can start the converation with – oh well we have to do this at this time ( a half hour away) so I am glad you stopped by now. 

Everyone who loves you will be praying for you daily.  I don’t think advising people you are in labor is necessary and that would rub me the wrong way too!

Like others said – a sign on the door basically saying  Wake the baby, take the baby sounds necessary with the number of visitors you will have!!   Just so they don’t knock and ring the door bell.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

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@ellebeerob:  i kind of wish i didnt have so many visitors but i cant say no. lol. i get people tired too… id be fine if it was just me and lo all day. i have a huge family though and they all want to see him so i try to be understanding and just go about my business as usual and that has helped alot. when i was trying to schedule feedings and visits i was getting stressed. i would say if you teally dont want visitors just do the sign on the door and ask tjat people keep a distance for a few weeks. πŸ™‚

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