Thank you all so much for the wonderful suggestions! I am not sure how to answer each person individually, so I will try here:
I do pump at work and we have a good stash (around 400 oz since she hates the bottle). She will take a bottle from the sitter or Darling Husband, but only when she is good and starving. She tends to eat about 1-2 ounces a day at the sitter and then nurses all night long (I know not the greatest, but I tell myself she needs to eat!).
Our sleeping arrangements tend to get us some side-eyes, BUT, we do co-sleep. She will only sleep in my arms so that is where she stays. She is a pretty decent sleeper as long as I don’t get up. I can move her all over without waking her up but the moment I get up to get ready, she is also up (and queue the crying).
She has always been a fussy baby, but recently it seems to have gotten worse. I think it is because I am on my PPD meds and actually want to get out of bed whereas before I was perfectly content laying in bed with her all day. She has some decent days at the sitters, but overall she will lay in her swing and whine or cry. The sitter said when it gets really bad, she puts her in a pack and play in her room and shuts the door. Not my style, but we LOVE our sitter and she needs to keep her sanity as well.
My husband is very good at helping with the day to day cleaning basics (take out the trash, help with dishes, cleaning the counters, etc), but has no idea how to deep clean properly. He tells me to hire someone, but I cannot convince myself that it is worth the money (it is extremely pricey in our area).
I am afraid she may be allergic to more than the dairy and have talked with her doctor about doing an allergy test, but they do not recommend it at her age. They said to cut out soy first, then wheat. I just have no idea how to do that! It seems every single thing we eat has soy in it.
We do baby-wear (started recently) and it is a lifesaver, but only for a short time. After about 30 minutes she seems to get bored and will start the screaming again. She not only wants to be held, she wants to be engaged. Same with the stroller. We thought we found her happy place recently (outside) and started taking long walks, but she gets bored easily and the crying starts again. She also will not let my husband take her on a walk by himself. He got down the street about a week ago, and she realized I wasn’t there and started whaling. She is a mess.
I will definitely try the chiropractor! I looked it up and we have a pediatric chiropractor in our area so I have a call in to them about scheduling an appointment! We didnt have a traumatic birth, but labor was a little touch and go. The cord was wrapped around her throat and every time we had a contraction, her heart rate plummeted. Luckily we had a great OB that only does C-sections as a last ditch effort and used an amniotic-infusion in order for her to stabilize her heart rate.
I know this is just a phase and should pass, but in the moment, I question how I will make it. I know I need some me time since my only time away from the girls is when I am at work. But, it is hard to leave Darling Husband because he is in the same situation except he cannot comfort the baby like I can.
Thank you all again for reading my very long rambling post. It means the world to just be able to write it all out and have so many people offering words of encouragement and advice.