Post # 1
I’ve been lurking for a while but finally registered 🙂 Anywho, my boyfriend has said that he is going to propose by the end of the year (YAY!), but I have a few questions for all of you!
So- I recently learned that my grandmother left me a 1.5 carat solitaire, which is currently in a classic Tiffany setting. While I love the timeless look of the solitaire the issue is that my stepmother (whom I do NOT get along with or like very much) has been wearing the ring for years! Apparently, my dad proposed to her with it, with the understanding that when I was ready to get engaged it would be passed to me.
The ring is far nicer than anything we would be able to afford, and I like that it was my grandmothers- do you guys think I should just ignore the fact that my stepmom wore it all these years??
I know this is kind of a strange situation, but any help would be appreciated! Below is picture of what the ring looks like 🙂
Post # 3
It’s beautiful! I wouldn’t think of it as a huge deal, but I could understand why you wouold be uncomfortable. I would focus more on the fact that it was your grandmother’s than the fact that your stepmom wore it. Is it your dream ring?
Post # 4
@Maressa: that is an unusual situation.. Maybe you could add engraving to the shank to personalize it, so it doesn’t look like the ring that’s been on her finger all threse years?
Post # 5
@ifoundmyprince I only started looking at rings a few months ago, but YES I love how simple and beautiful it is! Eventually, I would like to upgrade to a pave band, but I would also be happy with a pave wedding band. Honestly, I wouldn’t care if my boyfriend tied a string around my finger, I just love him and want to be with him!
Post # 6
Wow that is unusual. It’s weird your grandma left it to you and you didn’t know and she’s been wearing it. I wouldn’t be happy about that at all.
How about resetting it?
Post # 7
Use it!!! I love that it’s your grandmother’s ring! And it’s free. And it’s a beautiful ring! I’d just try to think of it as your grandmother’s ring, not your step mother’s ring. Maybe a new setting would make it more your own?
Post # 8
@blondemissmolly I KNOW! Like… what the hell? But oh well.
@jengirl Thanks! The free part is defintely a plus…
Post # 9
Girl, that is YOUR ring- you’re grandmother wanted YOU to have it. I don’t even know if I could wear someones ring “until they got engaged”. You shouldn’t even be in this situation. Just burn some sage around it or cleanse it in salt water and reclaim it! Hold it in your hands and visualize your grandmother full of love and light handing it to you :-).
I agree on the engraving for now, and when you can get the pave (for an anniversary or something…).
Post # 10
Are you worried about your step mum causing some issues about giving the ring back? While I completely agree that you should have it and wear it proudly, I think you should remember that this ring was given to her by the man she loves and it’ll be hard to say good bye to (even if she is aware that the ring is rightfully yours and will go to you when you get engaged). I think tread carefully, have your boyfriend speak to your father about it. I know that you don’t like her or get along with her, but at the moment and in her eyes it is her ring and she has worn it lovingly and proudly just as you will. It’s unfortunate that she didn’t receive a different ring from the beginning but hopefully it’ll all go smoothly and by the end of the year you’ll have your grand mother’s beautiful and classic ring on your finger! 🙂
Oh and congrats for the future!
Post # 11
Haha yes to what rusticbee2014 said!