(Closed) New Bee and Frustrating Waiting Days and Just Need to Vent/Rant/Whine

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
161 posts
Blushing bee

Sorry to hear about your Aunt. Almost all of the women in my family have been diagnosed and beat it so it’s an ever-present fear I face. Anyway, I think you’re doing the right thing by following Mr. Bees plan. If it does happen suddenly, you’ll be pleasantly surprised, rather than expecting it and it not happening and then being devasted. It sounds like you know he is rather indecisive, so this should not be TOO much of a shock to you, albeit very very very disappointing and hurtful. The bee is a great place to vent and get great advice so hang in there and welcome to the hive!

Post # 4
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699 posts
Busy bee

@KatertotATL:  Hi, I am also in my 30’s, not engaged & waiting. Things are good and I’ve also put the dream on the shelf for now. Don’t give up on it but keep it on low. Thats what I’m doing. Summers coming so keep busy having fun =)

Post # 5
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I joke with my SO that being over 30 and waiting was like 6 months for every real month…hahaha! And for me at 35, it’s more like 8 months.  😉

I’d give it a little time and then have a conversation about the future.  Mention that you dont’ want to assume what he’s thinking, and you’re starting to wonder if you and he are not on the same page and just want to have an honest discussion. I think it’s fair at a year and a half in at your age to know exactly where he stands on marriage, etc. 

Good luck!

Post # 7
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You have to go with your gut on this, only you know how long your willing to wait. 1 1/2 years isn’t long but it’s long enough to know if he’s worth the wait. Is he so indecisive that he may not ever be ready for a change or is he needing a little more time? Maybe it’s time to just plain out ask him if he wants to marry you or if doesn’t know if he wants to marry you. The answer to that should help with your decision.

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