Post # 1
New gal here. Waiting for that ring like so many of you. Been with my fella for almost 4 years now. I’m 39, he’s 40.
I’ve been married before, 10 years. He has been engaged twice. Obviously both ended while engaged.
I wonder if that has something to do with it. Who knows.
Friends around me are getting engaged and married. Hell this weekend I’m going to a bachelorette party on Saturday and a Bridal Show on Sunday, followed by my manfriend (Sex and the City reference) and I taking our newly engaged friends to dinner to celebrate their happiness.
Talk about a kick in the pants.
I will do my best to follow Mr. Bee’s advice and not be negative while I wait and do things for me and on my own.
Sometimes it is so very hard. Like this coming weekend.
While I’m not drooling over things wedding I work in law enforcement (forensics side) and have a side photography biz of photographing dogs. I look forward to sharing experience with other bees and seeing beautiful rings eventually adorn our fingers!
Post # 3
@onelovegal: Welcome to the Bee! Have you guys discussed marriage at all?
Post # 4
Welcome- I would have a talk with him and figure out where you both stand (if you haven’t already).
Post # 5
@FrozenFeet: Oh yes. We have.
He talked about when “we” retire. When “we” do this, when “we” do that. He knows I’m wanting a ring.
We talk about the future all the time.
We just need to complete point A before getting to point B, yanno?
I also know he has discussed marriage stuff with his sister. (She told me.) He already knows what kind of ring he wants for me. He told her he wants both us to be a bit more healthy, (we are both working on losing weight.) He seems to think I’d be happier engaged/planning a wedding when I reach my goal weight and not stressing about it. Maybe so, but this is something he should talk to me about.
Of course I can’t say anything about it. I had to promise not to say anything and if I did, his sister wouldn’t trust me anymore and he’d be in a fight with his sister.
So…. here I am. Working on my goal weight and waiting for a ring.
Post # 6
Welcome to the Bee. I am thrilled to see another over 30 bride here! (I am 45) All I can say is be patient. It sounds like he will be asking you, men don’t start talking to their sisters about getting married unless they are really thinking about it. There are many many ladies on here (myself included) who struggle with weight/health and body issues. The full figured board is great for encouragement for that. You might look at the thread of full figured ladies showing off their wedding dresses. I think you will see that a bride can be beautiful at any size.
Post # 7
Welcome to the Bee! Here’s to a short wait
Post # 8
For health’s sake, also hope you are close to your goal weight! Getting engaged for me, I know, gave me motivation to lose the last 10 lbs. that seemed to not wanna go anywhere.
Maybe having fish and salad for the next month might motivate him, no? 😉
As PP said, here’s to a short wait time!
Post # 9
@SandyThePoet: Nice to see that I’m not the only non 20 something gal on here. 😉