- 10 years ago
Good Morning Everyone!
I’ve been lurking for quite some time. I am almost 30, and have been dating the love of my life for almost 5 years. Ourrelationship has always been complicated because I was married in my very early 20’s and I have a 5 1/2 year old daughter. My BF and I have not lived together to set a good example for my daughter, we’re waiting until we’re married.
Obviously, he has been around for as long as my daughter can remember, she was about 9 months when we started dating, and just over a year the first time he started coming over to the house for dinners, etc. with her. They get along great.
Anyway, where I’m confused is that we’ve discussed marriage, we’re on the same page-sort of. We both agreed that we want to elope in Las Vegas. Ideally sooner than later. My family is pretty nuts and loves drama, and I’ve already had the big pretty princess wedding, which was fun, but I’m not into involving myself in all the stress this time. This is his first marriage, his dad is a pastor and I’m afraid they’re gonna flip out when they find out we ran off to Vegas! lol.
Since we’re just going to fly to Vegas (we’ve had 2 great vacations there and it holds a special place in our hearts and memories), I’ve been picking up things here and there since the cost of air and hotel, and wedding pkg will bombard us when we decide to go. I have my dress, we just purchased his wedding band, everything is in place and we’re pretty much good to go except I haven’t had the “official proposal”. I know there have been other posts about clarifying if you’re engaged or not, but I just feel strange that we’ve done all of these purchases so we can be ready to go later this summer, but he still hasn’t bought my ring?
He does keep saying things like, “I have so much to save up for” and yesterday during dinner he mentioned how his parents do not like vacations, so eloping to Vegas will probably be helpful to them 🙂 So I know it’s on his mind, but I’ just so freaking confused! hahaha, I know I should just ask him what the deal is, can we be “officially engaged” w/out the ring because it’s not the ring that I’m worried about, I just don’t want to do anything else w/out the understanding that we ARE indeed “engaged”. We have the intention of getting maried, and we technically have started the planning, but are we?
Have any of you wonderful bee’s ever heard of such craziness? Any advice besides the basic flat out conversation with him? Thanks!!!