Post # 1
hi everyone! been engaged since February of this year and im just getting eveything started. Long story short my fiance and I share a love for atlantis bahamans. we’ve always dreams about having our wedding and reception there. I always just figured invite everyone and whom ever can’t come oh well no hard feelings. in March I told my family we we’re going to have our dream wedding at the bahaMas like I’ve always said we were. All hell broke loose. “Oh that’s so selfish of you” “oh that’s disgusting” ” oh dont do that thags way to expensive people can’t afford to go” “to expensive nobody will come etc “…..”u need to get married in a church “. Not only did I get pissed my feelings were honestly hurt. I’ve been with him for 4 years i am easy going and now my famkly has an issue with what I want for my day???!!!!! So then we decided fine we will get married there ALONE since everyone else in my options was being selfish. one parents side is beloa average to average incomes.. Other parents side is very wealthy. Then I was asked to pay for my non wealthy side cause they can’t doors to go!…. But they can go put to dinner 4 times a week and vacations etc. well at this point I said to my fiamce lets go elope there me n u no drama no nonsence. (We also have two diff religious upbringing but neither of us are relgious but both spirtuAl. my parents r fine with with. Then I expecet everyone to still say we need to have a reception. I feel unfair we have to put out all of this money for second wedding that we don’t wNt. We’re in the process of trying to buy a house. That’s. Both of our concerns. HELP LADIES GIVE ME FEEDBACK!!!!!
Post # 2
I say elope and have a small reception that you can afford. EVERYONE WINS
Post # 3
If you want family there, I’d go ahead and plan a small, family-only wedding at Atlantis. Mail invites to parents/grandparent/siblings/anyone else you consider close family, requesting RSVPs.
Whoever responds “yes” can come. If nobody does (which won’t happen), you have your private ceremony, no worries!
Yes, destination weddings can be expensive, but if this place is special to you, do it!!! If you held back trying to cater to every preference, you’d never have a wedding.
If people respond “yes” and want to push the church thing, would you consider having the ceremony at a church nearby to Atlantis, while having all other festivities on-site? That could keep the peace unless you are actually opposed to a religious ceremony.
Post # 4
It’s not considerate to invite “everyone” to a Destination Wedding that would require a great deal of time and expense from them. It’s easy for you to say “if they can’t come, they can’t come” but most people take wedding invitations seriously and feel really bad about declining. And since many will have to decline, but might still feel obligated to give a gift, it seems gift-grabby. It would be better to elope, just the two of you. Or maybe invite a few special people like your parents and if you could afford to pay their way, even better. My husband and I have been checking prices at Atlantis for about 5 years now, hoping to catch a sale or something that would allow us to take the kids there. So far, no way in hell. If I got an invitation to a Destination Wedding there, I would laugh at the audacity and think “wow, they must think pretty damn highly of themselves.” So unless you want to duck dirty looks for the next several years of family gatherins, just elope.
Post # 5
EEk – I don’t think theres anything wrong with you inviting people to your destination wedding if its what you wanted for such a long time. Maybe don’t invite everyone and their mother but close friends and family should have understood or respectrully declined. Geez.
Anyhow – I know how it goes girl, I have family issues too and have decided that eloping is the only way to go! If you really want people there invite a select few and keep the focus on your marrige. Thats what the whole shebangs about anyhow. 🙂 Have a small reception when you get home and call it happily ever after!
Post # 6
Aww I was looking to see someone dress 🙁
Do what you feel best, no matter how you do it people will complain and some will call you selfish. You shouldn’t feel bad for wanting a destination wedding if you’re fine with elopment or no one coming. I’m sure certain people would love to see it but its not their day and elopments have been happening as long as weddings have.
Post # 7
We had a planned elopement and then rented out a BBQ restaurant for a 3-hour reception a month later. After tax and gratuity, it was just under $2000 total for open bar (beer/wine) and food buffet for 80 people. It was perfect for us.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2016 - Madame CJ Walker Building
I think elope and have a reception when you get back!
Post # 9
You guys thanks so much for all the advice … we are going for a vacation in August so we have a meeting with the woman in charge of he weddings there. We decider with advice from you all and others lol to me n him elope there on the beach to have our own special moment. Then we will have a reception within the year. It’s complicatied since diff religions are involved.. But i think this makes us happy and still accommodates friends and family to still see us get married in nyc or jersey. Ok time for dres pics this is only for the beach ceremony not for the reception for the reception I want glam bling for the beach this is still me but my version of beach glam. Hope you all enjoy thanks again!
Post # 10
Good choice eloping while on holiday, romantic AND practical! And then a celebration/party when you are home to satisfy all round.
And LOL at your ‘beach glam’. Your reception dress must be seriously glam if this is beach !!!