(Closed) New Bee :) ..I thought he would have proposed a million times over by now!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Should I propose to him??
    Yes! Do it on your 3 year anniversary : (0 votes)
    Yes. You can do it sooner, if you want! : (2 votes)
    8 %
    No. Wait for him. : (23 votes)
    88 %
    Other- undecided. Explain below if you'd like :) : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    16215 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I bet you anything that he has a plan in place. I’m not going to tell you to be patient, because that won’t help, but I’d give him a chance to do his thing. πŸ™‚ Are you going on vacation or anything together this summer? Even if nothing fancy is planned, I’m sure he has a plan in his mind. πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
    Member
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think that you should wait it out. I was with my now fiance for 2 years and 8 months when he proposed & I bet your time line will be similar. (also was 25 years old) Trust me, he has NOT forgotten. Give it through the Fall before you think about proposing. I know my Fiance would hate that because he thought so long and hard about how to make that moment special. (I know he would want the same for you)! Good Luck and keep us updated! I love the hive!

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    493 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you should wait it out. And being a waiting bee (4 yr anniversary in August) that’s hard for me to say. But if he’s asked about rings then he is definitely thinking about it and moving towards it at least. My SO and I went ring shopping for the first time 11 months ago. Then again 9 months ago and NOTHING since then. Yet I know the reason we aren’t engaged is completely financial and employment related (he was unemployed for 3 months). So that’s the only reason I’m still waiting. I also know that if I proposed to my SO he would not like that at all. He is VERY traditional and is kind of taking pride in the whole ring purchase, proposal thing. So I would say to you don’t rain on his parade. If by your anniversary nothing happens then just have THE TALK with him.

    Post # 8
    Member
    569 posts
    Busy bee

    @shinythingsrule: i loathe the label of “boyfriend and girlfriend” too. i’ve had a million boyfriends(over exageration haha!) and i’m ready to have a label that actually means something “fiance” “wife”

    Post # 10
    Member
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @shinythingsrule: btw- I knew I wanted to get married in October of 2011, before he popped the question. I even went as far to contact the venue I loved. (im so bad). I told them I was just inquiring on dates, and they told me they were booked through the summer already for 2011. (this was in July of 2010). I knew he had to do it quick if I could have my dream date! Needless to say, he proposed aug 6th and we signed the venue contract on August 9th. lol…. So- I completely understand where you are. I was def. a pre-planner. IT ended up working out for me, I will send lots of good vibes your way!

    Post # 12
    Member
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    shinythings: careful…. I sort of ruined my proposal by bringing it up all the time because I was impatient.  My now fiance was going to ask me by December 2010 and had every intention, but I kept stepping in it and it’s now June.  He asked 3 weeks ago.

     

    Make it clear you expect it to be soon or that it needs to be soon, and then let it go.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1995 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Why don’t you just ask him.  Explain you worries and frustrations (since relationships are based on trust and understanding) and hope that he calms you and assures you it will happen.  I’d wait.  Your fertility will be fine.

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