(Closed) New “bee” :) Money/creativity post

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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4480 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Welcome to the Boards, and good luck with your wedding! I agree that where there’s a will, there’s a way, and you don’t need to put your life on hold just because you are a poor student. πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

The board is definitely an area for women of all financial backgrounds AND creativity means to express themselves!! you’re so lucky to get great deals on most of your must-haves for your wedding!! i can’t wait to see them come to fruition.

Post # 5
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

Melissa–

Welcome.  I think you’re right that there’s a stigma, but I think it’s more of a stigma of planning a wedding beyond your means.  I think you’re going to have a beautiful wedding that will be long lasting.  You and your Fiance seem mature and realize it will take work.  But, you’ve also shown that what you’re doing is within your means.  And, being within your means doesn’t mean it can’t be beautiful (as you’ve so carefully pointed out)!

Post # 6
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683 posts
Busy bee

I applaud your decision to calculate, plan and budget. You have will, and there is a way. Marriage isn’t about a check balance.

I would be curious to know however, how many bee’s will be depending on their parents for money after marriage? Is it a sign of the times, etc? (Longer education, crappy economy, irresponsibility, responsible saving,  I don’t know, etc.)

Congrats on your beautiful, practical wedding.

I think I started the post you’re commenting on:

Must-Have Goals Before Engagement

Post # 7
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Welcome!!

There have been some threads about what “ducks to have in a row” before people get married. I think that it is really just a sign of the times. Today, the trend is towards being independant (emotionally, physicially, financially) before being married… kind of building your life and then merging it with your spouse. Back in the day, it was much more common for couples to get married at the very start of their adulthood before they had anything of their own and to build a life together as a joint unit.

I don’t really think that one way is better than another… both can obviously work. It just depends what you feel comfortable with really. I felt like I wasn’t ready to be married until I had reached a level of independence, but I certainly don’t judge people who choose to do it another way.

I do think that iswimibikeirun has it right though… the biggest stigma is attached to throwing a wedding that is just way outside your means. Sounds to me like you’re planning a beautiful and sensible wedding well within your means. πŸ™‚

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