(Closed) New Bee — Mr. Owl is being weird

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Welcome to the boards!

I would simply just ask him if a fall 2011 wedding is still on the cards or not. There is the chance that he wants the talk of a wedding to die down so that he can ‘surprise’ you with a proposal, or that he needs a bit more time.

Just ask him about the time for the wedding, and perhaps if he wants to put wedding talk on hold until after a proposal.

Good luck

Post # 4
330 posts
Helper bee


I would say just flat out ask. If you two have been pretty open about it in the past, it shouldn’t be too hard to get a stright answer. Or you could simply give it a couple weeks. Try not to mention it and just let him have a brain break.

Hope that helps 🙂 Good Luck!

Post # 6
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Guys Point of View – I’ve noticed a lot of ladies discussing this issue. Waiting too long for the ring/engagement. The man simply not coming through on an original expected timeline. In some cases, worrying if it’s going to happen at all!

I live my life around one rule… and I think it’s pretty simple:

“A Happy Miss Coffee is A Happy Mr Coffee”

When it came to getting the ring; I wanted her to a be apart of the pre-stages, going to the stores and letting me know what she liked (SEE MY 1 RULE) . So right there… IT’S ON! Miss Coffee walked away (no doubt called all her girlfriends) shouting “he’s buying me a ring… I’m going to be engaged”.

When it comes to the ring; there are two kinds of guys: 1. Those who involve there girlfriends and 2. Those who keep it a complete surprise. It really is a double edge sword in the sense that there are pros and cons to each one.

There only problem I noticed with involving Miss Coffee in the ring process was that she instantly place me on a timetable. Now of course, she didn’t come right out and say “ok… you have 3 weeks and you better put a ring on it”! However, and she would agree with this… Miss Coffee mentally placed my on a timetable.

Guys are not stupid…. ok, ok… we are! But most men know that moment we start looking at rings/venues/churches… its go time. I will say that I’m rather confused on how many ladies have said they have looked at & even gone as far as booking halls before actually being engaged. Speaking as a guy, that seems very strange.

I will say this – For some guys, it’s not just a simple as buying and ring and popping the question. For me, I wanted to create an entire “proposal day” for Miss Coffee. I wanted to give her a VERY special day.

Do you know how long it took me to plan, prepare, and organize Miss Coffee’s proposal day??? Over 3 months!

Basically I’m saying the “don’t worry”… it will come. I’m sure your guy is also stressed, frustrated, or nervous about your proposal day. At the same time, we also want it to be somewhat of secret. You may know he’s going to do it… but we don’t want you to know what, when where, and how!

I hope this made sense and helped.

Mr Coffee 🙂 

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