Post # 1
My SO and I have been dating for almost four years now (in November). I have been in school for some time but will be graduating in December. SO and I have talked about getting married but it turns out that his brother not only got engaged but will be getting married before us (although dating less time). Not that I’m jelouse (and Im very happy for them) but its like a kick in the stomach. We searched for Erings for about a 1 1/2 years and found one last month but I have a feeling its going to be along time before an actual proposal. He keeps telling me good things come from those who wait, but i feel like I have put enough waiting time in. Last year he even wanted me to go look at wedding venues. Now, a year later from venue searching I feel that I have been strung along for nothing. Talking about it hasnt really turned up anything and he won’t give me a timeline because it could ruin the surprise. Does anyone else just feel strung along and how did you deal?
Post # 3
We all feel like that. Honestly is the best policy in my opinion. I’ve told my SO exactly how it hurt my feelings. I dont think its fair for you to suffer in silence.
So talk to him in a non-confrontational manner, and basically just tell him how your feeling.
Post # 4
@skipanther: Ugh, guys just don’t get it. How can they send us to look at erings and venues and not be proposing any time soon! They really DON’T get it!
I hope he pops the question soon so you dont have to wait any longer( I’m still waiting too!)
But the best advice someone else gave me ( someone from the bee lol) Said do your own thing, start working out, keeping your nails nice and focusing on you! It does help a lot!
Post # 5
@skipanther: I’m sorry, it sucks! But, chances are it’ll be sooner than you think NOT to get your hopes up but not even setting a deadline seems a bit fishy.
Definatly get on the Mr. Bees plan, its not easy at first but you’ll get the hang of it.
Welcome to the Bee! 😀
Post # 6
That sucks – I think you should talk with him and let him know it has upset you. Dont suffer in silence!!
Post # 7
Hugs!!! I know that feeling. It’s sooooo especially annoying not having a timeline because, hello!, this is my life too! I am in a very similar situation as you as far as time together, graduating, etc. I’ve told him before that I feel like he has a carrot (or carat? har har) tied on a string and is pulling me along without letting me get to it. But that’s the thing, it really does help (I think) to tell him how you feel and why these things can upset you. But you need to be specific. For example, (and I’ve said things along these lines..)
“It makes me feel like I am being rejected when months go by and no progress has been made” “I feel a bit let down because we looked at venues last year and we still aren’t engaged a whole year later” “I feel sad when you give me little engagement nuggets (rings, venue stuff), and I keep getting my hopes up, only to be let down again”
Also…Good things come to those who wait?? Ha! ……Well…
Post # 8
My bf still has my ring and i am trying anxiously waiting for it. And Bees what is SO stand for?? 🙂
Post # 9
@nafarey7: SO stands for “significant other”
And i HATE the “good things come to those who wait.” I guess in some cases, it’s fine, but coming from my Boyfriend or Best Friend who isn’t very on top of plans and goals and timelines, it’s just FRUSTRATING. I nearly have a whole pinterest board with things relating to that, but these are my favorites:
Post # 10
HA I love the first one! I may just print that out and stuff it somewhere where he may find it lol