(Closed) New bee needing some advice

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
8731 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I am sorry that it is hurting your feelings that sucks.

I take it that your FI’s family is close and if they have been taking this particular family vacation for years then yes to them it is their final family vacation. It is probably a pretty emotional thing for them especially your Future Mother-In-Law. I think you need to cut them some slack.

You never know next year might be the start of a new era of family vacations.

Post # 4
6534 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

I would feel hurt too. I am treated like family by SO’s family and have always been included. I would be upset not to be invited (like you said, you aren’t expecting them to pay for you!). I wouldn’t have your Fiance say anything to you Future Mother-In-Law about the wording of the holiday, just try to ignore it and just every time they think talk about it, just think how nice it will be when you get to start your very own traditions such as family holidays! 🙂 Also… welcome to the bee x

Post # 5
45 posts

@icecream21:  i’m sorry your going through this. I could see how it would hurt. I am close with my SO family and it would hurt if everyone was invited but me. Is he an only child? His mom might just be having a hard time letting him go. I moved out and in with my SO a year ago and my mom had a hard time with me leaving. Everyone deals with things differently. What does your SO say about it?

Post # 6
979 posts
Busy bee

Thats horrible. I’d feel insulted. Together for 9 years and never been invited to a family vacation? I was with a boyfriend and I was insulted for not being invited to Thanksgiving dinner!  I would definately say something to him and/or his parents about how you feel about it.  I’d be pretty upset and hurt and left out.  Is this how they will treat  you when you guys are married? That’s what you have to ask yourself.  Good luck. 

Post # 7
9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@icecream21:   That’s not right and you’re not overreacting.  They’re purposely excluding you – that would hurt me, too.  IMO, your Fiance should refuse to go if you’re not included and he should pay your way, not you.

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