(Closed) New Bee Needs Advice

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do we need to have a wedding?
    Yes : (1 votes)
    4 %
    No : (24 votes)
    96 %
  • Post # 3
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    You should do what will make the two of you happy. Maybe you can compromise a little bit, by going to the courthouse and then having a small family affair at your (or someone elses) house afterwards. I think wanting a house for your family is a completely valid reason!

    Post # 4
    1105 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Could you go ahead an elope and then have a reception later for all your family and friends? 

    Post # 5
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    the only people you should be concerned with are you and your Fiance.

    If you guys are cool with eloping thats all that matters.



    My Fiance and I are eloping and we couldn’t be happier with our choice.  We didn’t want to stress over first dance songs, flaky bridesmaids, seating charts, (omg the list could go on and on. ) We wanted the day to be about us and making us happy.

    When we get back we are having a big party with about 40 our closest friends in our new house. We are going to wear our wedding outfits, have bbq and cake and dance the night away. (thanks to our DJ friend)

    It’s going to be pretty bad ass if I don’t say so myself.

    Post # 7
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Do what’s best for you two. Investing in a house is a much better idea than blowing money on a big party just to make your friends happy. You could always have a joint house-warming and reception/anniversary party later down the road if you wanted.

    Post # 8
    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Do what will make you and your husband happy – don’t worry what anyone else thinks!

    That said – if you want to compromise between eloping with just you two and a whole out wedding – you could elope on your own and then have a small reception/celebration sometime later with your family and friends.  Then they still get the chance to celebrate with you (which is probably why they want you to have a wedding instead of elope – so they get the chance to celebrate with you).

    Post # 9
    1250 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Definitely do what will make you and your husband happy. I am only now coming to realize that weddings are insanely, ridiculously, unnecessarily expensive and that money could totally be put to better use, especially if you guys have kids!! I would totally elope if my mother didn’t already tell us she’d disown us and it would break her heart. 

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