- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I’m a quasi newcomer to the Hive. In January 2012, while attempting to educate myself on all things expected of me as my sister’s clueless Maid of Honor, I stumbled across this site, joined, but never posted. I have been silently following many of your stories, and as I would like to join the conversation, I felt an introduction was in order.
For us the concept of marriage was not an objectionable one, but we didn’t consider it a necessity. We share a life and home, there is no question of our loyalty to or love for one another, and I am not the girl who had her future wedding planned in grade school. However, as our years together grew, I found that while marriage had never been something I needed, marriage to HIM was steadily becoming something I desired. I began to want the honor of being his wife, the formal symbol of our pre-existing commitment, and the legitimization of our relationship in the eyes of the law (as well as our more conventional family members).
Still, I was not expecting anything. It certainly would not have been a deal breaker if my partner did not share my views, but we discussed it and he revealed that marriage was something he actively wanted for us as well. We thought it wise to wait a bit though, as our entire relationship has been plagued by financial and occupational instability. Both areas have been improving for the past several months, so we are cautiously optimistic about 2013.
I am not fretfully awaiting a proposal; in fact this period of anticipation has been largely pleasant. I suppose I just wanted to indulge in some shameless and hopefully not-too-nauseating gushing.
Thanks for the privilege.