Post # 1
Hi All –
I’ve been lurking here for awhile, I have to say – but I’m finally posting! My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together for three years and living together for two – we just moved across the country together so we could be closer to my family and for his new job. We’ve been talking about getting married for, GOD, like two years and before we left St. Louis for VA we decided to just set a date. We’re getting married October 15, 2011 and already have a ceremony venue, reception venue and photogrpaher … BUT we’re not engaged.
I’m not proud to say that after setting the date four months ago I’ve had a tendency to be … well … impatient. As other Bees have said on this board – waiting ain’t always pretty and my behaviour definitely hasn’t been all the time … but waiting to be able to say “We’re engaged” not just “We’re getting married” (and I feel like there IS a difference, right?!) has been driving me nuts.
He was waiting to buy the ring until a bonus check came – which it has and I know it because we went and bought a new washer and dryer yesterday (very exciting btw but not quite an engagement ring) … and I have reason to believe he bought the ring – fine okay his email was open on our computer and I saw the email confirmation (I didn’t open it but it was there in his inbox) … so it has to be soon right?? The fact that I now know the ring has been ordered is going to drive me NUTS. Any advice for staying patient? I know I should be excited and I AM SUPER EXCITED … but what can I say, patience has NEVER been my particular virtue.
Thanks for listening Bees!! I’m excited to be part of the Hive.
Post # 3
Wait, aren’t you technically “engaged” if you’re getting married and have the venue etc. booked? Even without a ring? I just though it always meant that your engaged to be married…and it looks like you are!
Either way I hope your ring comes soon! Try not to drive yourself crazy though because at least you have some plans unlike some of the other “waiting” girls who have that 6-8 month “idea” of when it’s going to happen.
Good luck 🙂
Post # 4
Sounds promising! I’ll keep my fingers crossed you don’t have to wait too much longer
Post # 5
@marilovely: we went and bought a new washer and dryer yesterday (very exciting btw but not quite an engagement ring)
::giggles:: I like that you’re staying positive!
Post # 6
I mean I totally know we’re getting married and so does the Boyfriend or Best Friend but we have fairly traditional families and they don’t much want to hear about “wedding plans” without a ring and a “proposal”, you know? And it sucks to feel like we have to validate our relationship, but such is life I guess 🙂
Post # 7
I know EXACTLY how you feel. And I mean exactly. Same situation (minus the email confirmation). Date set, plans made, no ring=no announcement. At least in my case, he didn’t want to announce until we have a ring. Our families are the same in that they wouldn’t take us as seriously without the official proposal. It doesn’t matter to some people, but it matters to us that we can have our families excited along with us. I feel you.
The good news is that he has the ring and “officialness” is in the near future! You won’t have to keep it all in much longer! 🙂 Keep us updated!
Bonus: you’ll have clean clothes! 🙂
Post # 8
I’m dealing with the same thing on my end. After nearly 5 years together, we’ve got the date set and pretty much everything planned, but for reasons out of our control, the ring has yet to be in the picture. I’d love to tell people that we’re committed to each other and he’s not dragging his feet (as they all seem to think), it’s only taking awhile because certain pieces have to fall into place for everything to be absolutely perfect . . . which I suspect is the situation on your end. Once those stars align and the timing is exactly right all around, everything’s going to be exactly what you want and ten times better than if the actual engagement had happened sooner. It’s kind of hard to think that way when you’re waiting, though it sounds like you don’t have much longer to wait!
At least you got an awesome washer and dryer already! My boyfriend recently bought me the loveliest, most domesticated item signifying love and commitment a gal can ever hope to recieve . . . a power saw. I’m a lucky lady. ^_^
Post # 9
@marilovely: I know what you mean about needed the ring to sort of “prove” you’re engaged. I bet you guy is working on great plans right now, and it will be within a few months. Just try to keep busy doing other things: cooking, crafting, working out, sports, ANYTHING! The busier you are, the more time will move and you wont be left wondering about it every second (I’ve been in the wondering about it every second position and it is so stressful after a few days!!). Don’t forget to tell us how is happpened when he does propose!
Also: Welcome to the Bee!!
@maeby: hahahaha! Power saws are *SO* romantic.
Post # 10
He’s probably working on a most awesome plan for the proposal! You know it’s gonna happen so try not to steal his thunder! 🙂
Post # 11
Thanks y’all! I love all the comments and support (and a power saw is pretty freakin’ sweet!) … The washer and dryer are being delivered today (YAY!) aaaand his parents and my dad are meeting for the first time tonight at dinner – I am SUPER nervous actually. I’m kind of a people pleaser and I just hope everything goes smoothly – meanwhile his parents and my Mom and Stepdad probably won’t meet until our wedding …
Any tips on parents meeting? Did anyone else feel nervous or am I crazy? Boyfriend or Best Friend seems to think I’m nuts as he’s not nervous at all.