- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead
I have a confession to make. I am new to WeddingBee (just joined less than a couple hours ago!) and I was never one of those that had a dream wedding dress, dream wedding ring, dream wedding destination in mind. I actually thought I would be single until age 50 and had completely come to peace with the idea when I met my SO. We have been dating since Aug 2006 and we had a long distance relationship the entire time. He is moving to my city at the start of this new year, has been househunting, and soon will be applying for a new job. Just this weekend on Sunday before Christmas he asked me what was my ring size and what sort of engagement ring had I thought I would like. (EEK!) While we have always had very wide open lines of communication throughout our relationship and have done a lot of talking about life as a married couple, around when would we like to think about having children, etc, talk about my ring size and ring type made it all seem so CLOSE! So REAL! From sunday to today I have been researching types of rings I would like, went to Zales to find out my ring size, and just seem to have Enagement on the BRAIN!
I probably should be more patient and understanding with myself since it doesn’t help that I just went to a friend’s wedding Dec 1, an elementary school friend of mine got engaged on Dec. 2, my business partner got engaged on Dec 15, my best friend from college got engaged Dec 22, , and another friend from high school got engaged on Christmas Day! I feel like I am drowning in proposals, engagement parties, wedding planning, and the like and now I can’t get it off my brain! I have this nagging feeling my SO plans to propse on my 30th birthday but that is not until Sept 2013 and the thought of it being almost a year away from now is driving me crazy! After telling my SO my ring size today and giving him the details of my ring research, He told me the following:
“I really don’t want to hear any more about it (not trying to sound funny or anything). Just the ring size, metal type, and the stone type is all I really need to know. Anything more is borderline stepping on my toes.”
I already know he has his own plan of when and how he wants to do it and does not want to feel like I played too much of a role in the whole thing and I can understand that. I am praying this fixation on the idea will pass and that this is just part of the normal process to feel this crazed. It is so wonderful to find an online community like WeddingBee to find others that have been in the same situation and to read their thoughts and stories from their perspectives. I appreciate any advice and words of wisdom that you have to share.
In the meantime, I pray that all of you Bees and your family had a wonderful holiday and have a Happy and Prosperous New Year! <3