(Closed) New Bee: Waiting and I know it’s coming soon! Advice?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
1034 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@mgbee:  Your story sounds so similar to mine, except that we have chosen not to live together until marriage. We’ve been together 3.5 yrs, and are attending several weddings this year. We just got engaged a month ago and are planning a May 2013 wedding. The most important advice I can give you is to TRY to resist the urge to constantly poke and prod him about getting engaged. I finally got the message not to do that months ago, but I feel like if I hadn’t nagged him at all (as I was at the end of 2011), I probably would have gotten engaged sooner. The more I talked about it, the further he pushed the proposal back so that when he did it, it would be a surprise and wouldn’t seem like he did it to shut me up ๐Ÿ˜‰ Talking about wedding planning every once in a while is OK, especially if he brings it up, but try not to ask him about the engagement/proposal. I also went looking at rings with my Fiance about 4 months before he proposed. I felt like since I took part of the surprise away by helping him pick my setting, I wanted to give him the freedom to propose however and whenever he wanted, and I’m so glad I did. It was the best moment of my life.

Congrats and good luck girl! Try to enjoy this time.. as soon as you’re engaged, the wedding planning is crazy! ๐Ÿ™‚ And trust me, I know how hard it is to wait. But it’s so worth it.

 

P.S. My Fiance also asked when he should talk to my parents… turns out he had done it back in February without my knowledge and was trying to throw me off. You never know… your guy MAY be doing the same thing.

Post # 4
Member
1187 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

First off, welcome and I hope you find the advice you looking for here. Everyone is so great and very wise! 

Wow, that’s a lot of weddings to attend for you and I know how hard that can make waiting. However, it sounds like things are on-track as far as you and your Boyfriend or Best Friend. It’s so very very good that you guys have communicated and are on the same page. Feeling like you are planning a wedding while waiting for the proposal can feel frustrating. However, I feel like you aren’t far off from a proposal. 

My advice? Relax! You are a good position and now the ball is in his court. So your job now should be to focus on yourself. Find more hobbies, hang out with your friends, do things that take your mind off of when the heck he’s going to do it. Mr. Bee’s Plan (if you do a search, you should be able to find it) has some excellent advice. Enjoy the time you have with your Boyfriend or Best Friend and always remember no matter how much you hate waiting, you love him. 

Hope this helps!

Post # 6
Member
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Like PP said, relax and enjoy! Wedding craziness will be on you before you know it ๐Ÿ™‚ Just keep being patient–it sounds like he definitely has a plan, so just sit back and let him do his thing. And keep us posted!

Post # 7
Member
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

keep your nails looking nice ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 8
Member
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would say relax and get through those weddings, geez those are a lot of weddings but I agree with you that your special occasion shouldn’t be with anybody elses. Also I am happy for you! seems he is planning this all out and getting everything perfected for you!

Post # 9
Member
1013 posts
Bumble bee

I could have written this post! we are the same age, dating the same amount, everything!!I would tell him you have your heart set on a fall 2013 wedding and you need a year to plan. that should let him know he needs to propose sooner than later. and to put wedding talks on hold until you are officially engaged! 

Post # 10
Member
810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds like us! Not engaged but have started talking/light planning for a fall 2013 wedding. Go us!?! lol. If you figure out how to be patient let me know! I’m trying to just not talk about anything unless he brings it up first. Easier said than done though!

Post # 11
Member
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Me and you are in the same boat! We know for sure that it’s coming soon…but when exactly?! Ooooh…exciting!

The best thing to do is just relax and find comfort in knowing that it is happening soon. Don’t ask about it, just be content that this man loves you enough to want to marry you!

If you really, really want to talk about it, discuss it with your family or friends. That way you don’t risk him pushing the day back.

Congratulations, girl! ๐Ÿ™‚

The topic ‘New Bee: Waiting and I know it’s coming soon! Advice?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors