Post # 1
I have been lurking on the boards for a while and wanted to introduce myself. I am 25 years old and my boyfriend of 2 years is 30. We have lived together for a year and even though 2 years isn’t that long I am ready to be married!!!! I am happy I found this board for support 🙂
We have talked about buying a house together, having kids, and of course getting married but I am loosing my patience. We both have decent jobs but with rent, saving for a house, school loans and the cost of living in MA in general, we pretty much have no extra money. I jokinly (hah-not really jokingly at all) asked last night if I was getting a ring for Christmas. He looked sad and said “You know I can’t afford it right now”. So then I of course could feel the tears coming on and said that I knew and understood. He said he has a date in mind though and is trying to budget for it (fyi-this made me actually cry tears of joy. Yes, I am a total loser). I asked if that date was in 2010? He said maybe. I said 2011? He said maybe. After that I pretty much dropped it. The thought of waiting until 2011 will make me go insane.
Like I said, 2 years isn’t THAT long and since we already live together I don’t see too much changing when we actually do get married. And I love him and I am 110% completely happy. So why I am SOOO obsessed with getting a ring?!!
Post # 3
Guys definitley have their own time line. If he’s got a date in mind, try not to obsess too much. And you’ve found the right place to hang out when you do obsess!
Post # 4
Hi Bostgirl and welcome to Hive! We all know how it feels to ready and waiting, those feelings are totally natural. You will soon figure that out by hanging out around here. I was beginning to think I had lost it but reading others felt how I did was a relief.
Looking forward to seeing you around the Hive!
Post # 5
welcome to the hive bostongrl! the best thing about this place is that there isn’t a feeling that you’ve felt that someone here hasn’t felt. we’ve gone through it all.
though i will say that the best part of waiting is the chance to save some money for the big day. if you can spare a few dollars a week, definitely start socking it away. you’ll be surprised just how much you’ll have by the time you do get engaged!
Post # 6
welcome! i know how you feel, im waiting too.
Post # 7
Hi and welcome to the board! I am in the same situation as you when it omes to being with someone for *only* two years (and you and I are the same ages and my so is 30 too). I think two years is enough time to figure out if two people are right for each other. Sorry to hear about him not telling youa more specific timeline… that sucks… I know how you feel though. I am kinda in the same situation over here.
Post # 8
Welcome to Weddingbee Bostongrl!
You’re definitely in good company on the waiting boards. He’ll propose someday (though we know it’s hard to wait!)
We’re glad you’re here 🙂
Post # 10
Maybe he’s trying to throw you off. A lot of waiting stories end with the girl saying “I had NO idea it was coming because he said it wasn’t now! He said we couldn’t afford it!” I hope I don’t make it worse if it doesn’t happen by saying that, but I survived my waiting period by thinking “It could happen ANY day now!”.
Post # 11
Thank you everyone! You are right, I am in good company 🙂
And yes, I wondered too if he was trying to throw me off by mentioning the money thing. But I really do know his money situation and unfortunetly, he was telling me the truth! Oh well, I guess I will just keep whinning here until it happens 🙂
Post # 12
I know how you feel. Ive been with my Boyfriend or Best Friend 2yrs, and Im ready and waiting for that proposal. Welcome… Im new too. This board is a lifesaver!
Post # 13
Welcome, welcome, welcome! You’re in good company here! No worries. I’m sure he’s doing the financially responsible thing for you, and while it’s hard to wait, that’s excellent news!
Post # 14
Welcome to weddingbee!
I think he is just teasing you! You just need to try and put it out of your mind instead of asking him. I finally stopped asking and then I got the ring!
Post # 16
Welcome! I have been waiting 4 plus years now. So be lucky you haven’t been waiting that long. Be happy he at least has a date in mind. Good luck in the new year!