Post # 1
This month, I started my grad program. Also this month, SO and I are beginning a 2.5 year stint in LDR. It could be worse, I’m outside Boston and he’s in Brooklyn, so it’s not horribly far. But we’ve been living blissfully together for the past two years, and it feels like such a downgrade! I plan on trying to use the gym to cope, but what are some other ways you ladies deal?
Post # 3
I’ve been in a LDR for 2 years. It may seem obvious, but definitely stay busy. I’ve joined a book club and enjoy going out to dinner with girlfriends. You also have plenty of time for hobbies. Lately I’ve been doing a lot of calligraphy for fun. If you are in grad school that will probably keep you pretty busy during the week. It should also be a great place to meet new people if you are new to the area.
Post # 4
I’m the opposite of you, @crocodile, after five years of a Boston-Brooklyn relationship, our LDR is ending in about 8 weeks! As @riley said above, keeping busy is key, and your gym solution is a good one! I like to craft too, which helped as well. Both my fiance and I did a 2 year stint in grad school (not even at the same time) so that really made things fly by quickly (and I know it’s obnoxious to say that because I HATED it when people said that the time would “fly,” but it honestly did!). We’ve done the BOS-NYC trip every which way multiple times too, because sometimes you just need to visit 🙂 the bus is rugged, but at least it’s cheap! Hang in there!
Post # 5
Oh man, i got about 4 years under my belt of LDR. Keep yourself busy, that’s all you can do! your grad program will keep you busy too =] After living together, it’ll totally be a shocker. Don’t be surprised when you go up and down emotionally, it’ll take awhile to adjust. It doesn’t sound TOO far so that is awesome =]
Post # 6
i’ll add another suggestion: skype dates! for awhile Fiance and i had a skype date once a week where we would video chat and play games or watch a movie/tv “together.” it really helped to make the longer breaks between visits not seem as bad. we dont have it once a week anymore since both our schedules have gotten crazy so it’s more of a fun treat now.
Post # 7
Distractions, distractions, distractions! Keeping myself busy has been key in surviving a one-year stint of a 6,000 mile separation. Also, things to look forward to that involve him — could be a skype date, or visiting each other — make the time go a lot faster. You can do this!