(Closed) New Found Friends = Invites?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: To Invite or Not to Invite
    Yes! Rookies N Cream all the way! : (7 votes)
    54 %
    Ehhh, me thinks not - you've known everyone else for >5 years, they're just too "new" : (4 votes)
    31 %
    Maybe, if (explain): ... : (2 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
    2494 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    What if you do them as a “b” list? Usually not everyone you invite shows up, and if that is the case if you have 7 or so “declines” you will be able to invite the 7, if you have 9 then you can invite the 9.

    Post # 4
    612 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m not sure that I understand what your poll options are, exactly, haha… but I will say that my friend invited some of her friends’ siblings (so, people she essentially grew up with even though they weren’t “friends”) to the after-dinner portion of her wedding. They were totally fine with it because they knew they’d never be invited otherwise… but tread carefully because it obviously depends on your relationship and the general chill-ness of the people you’re inviting.

    Post # 5
    1375 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @takemyhand:  B lists are terribly rude.  And if you have a few people who RSVP no, then send invites to use their spaces, what happens if they change their minds?

    OP, you still have about 6 months.  Could you cut some corners for other things and invite these people?  Maybe take a few things out of our floral bouquet, or cut an app or two out of the menu.  Its a different situation, but everyone makes new friends and I’m sure there are other brides in your shoes looking for advice.

    Post # 6
    262 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013


    I can see what you mean about a B list being normally being a little rude. Afterall, it is one thing not be invited due to constraints and another to be someone’s second choice, but in this case, she is inviting people she didn’t consider inviting before. I think they would be pretty understanding if they communicated the siutation over the phone or in person.

    Something like- “We didn’t know each other too well when invites were sent out, but I’ve come to really value your friendship over these past few months. I would really love it if you could still come to the wedding, but we unfortunately only planned for a certain number of people. If some spots open up, you’ll be the first one we call!”

    As for the guests who RSVP “no”, be honest. They said they weren’t going to be there so we planned for them not to be there. Isn’t that what an RSVP is for?

    Post # 7
    399 posts
    Helper bee

    @takemyhand:  i agree 100% and i don’t think b-lists are rude. especially at 300 bux a plate! geez 🙂

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