(Closed) New GF of FBIL… what to do? (kinda long)

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

If I were you I might wait a bit before extending the invite to her.
You have only met her once so far. What if you don’t like her and then  you have to deal with the awkwardness of dealing with her on your weekend?

Everyone is great on the first meet. Every Girlfriend is great in a relationship when it’s only been a few months.

You can’t really tell a lot about a person after one evening. Once the invite is out you can’t rescind it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t invite her now to your bachelorette in July – a lot can happen between now and then.  If they are still together a month before it, then invite her.  If she can make it, great!  It’s a long time away, so there is no reason to be talking about it around her anyway.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I recommend that if you are able to keep the bachelorette as wedding party only, there should be no reason for her to feel left out. Otherwise, if she is still with Future Brother-In-Law, I would, and make it a game time decision. I wouldn’t send out an invitation this far in advance incase something does happen with them.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@kimbean:i know you’ve already decided to invite her in may/june…. but, i was going to say, you should just invite her now and i’m sure if/when they break up, she will let you know she’s not coming anymore. no hurt feelings this way =)

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

double

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MissKat03: this is what i was going to say…i’m sure if you invite her now and she and Future Brother-In-Law break up before then, she won’t come.  and if she’s that pushy and still wants to come, you shouldn’t feel bad (and nobody would think badly of you) if you had to tell her that her invite was rescinded.

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