Post # 1
Hi Beautiful Bee Brides! Would just like to have a conversation about new vs preowned bridal gowns. We buy preowned cars that we use every day for years, we buy preowned homes that we may live in for a lifetime. Yet, we’re willing to spend thousands of dollars on a new wedding dress that we will wear one time for only a few hours rather than buy a preowned wedding dress. I’m not talking about stained, ripped dresses – I’m talking about most of them that still look brand new at the end of the day. With a cleaning and steaming or pressing, you wouldn’t even be able to tell them from a new one from the manufacturer. Why is that? Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I think pre-owned dresses are the way to go. Admittedly, I have not bought my dress yet, but when I do, I will definitely be perusing the websites that are available for pre-owned/recycled gowns. If it fits, isn’t stained or ruined, and it makes me happy, I see no reason why one dress has to never be worn again!
Post # 4
Im guessing because preowned dresses have been altered to fit the other person exactly, so we assume it’s easier to buy a new one.
Post # 5
@abeautifulbride: I agree! I bought a pre-owned dress and loooooove it! It is beautiful and exactly what I envisioned….in my price range! So, this route totally worked for me.
I think other ladies buy brand new wedding gowns to pass on to their daughters. A very sweet idea indeed.
Post # 6
I wish I knew about Preownedweddingdresses.com, Oncewed.Com; and Tradesy.Com before buying my dress.
I would’ve definitely bought pre-owned. For the amount I paid on my DB gown, I could’ve had a designer dress for a fraction of the cost.
Post # 7
I bought mine pre-owned. It’s silly, to me, to pay the ridiculous prices that wedding gowns are sold for when there are SO many beautiful, perfectly good gowns out there. And as long as you don’t have “my dress was pre-owned” printed in your programs, no one will know the difference. I, personally, am much happier spending the money that I saved on our honeymoon.
Post # 8
I seriously looked into pre-owned dresses, and several “bookmarked!” But, when I was out and about trying dresses on.. I ended up falling love with one that wasn’t on the pre-owned market yet. It was too new… And I think I was not being realistic with my goal of only spending 200 dollars… Although I ended up spending 500 with a free veil (woot woot for sales!). I’m a super frugal, budget bride!!
If my dress would have been on the pre-owned market, I totally would have bought it there!
On the flip side, which I think is funny/weird, my FH did not like the idea of a pre-owned dress. He wanted it to be “mine.” So he was happy when I bought a new dress… such a dork!
Post # 9
Nope. I see your point, but I wouldn’t wear someone else’s wedding dress. I’d kill to buy a house built from the ground up, but that’s not quite in my budget. A thousand dollars or two isn’t too bad for the dress, in my opinion.
Post # 10
I would absolutely buy a used dress. I have my eye on one that I’m hoping to get in a three-digit price range, instead of four-digit.
I second the observation that we buy lots of other things used (in my case, car, clothing, furniture, cookware, etc.), so why not a crazy-expensive one-time wear article of clothing? I’d wear used shoes, too, if it meant getting a pair of Jimmy Choos for well under $500.
Post # 11
I totally understand purchasing used cars or homes, they are EXTREMELY expensive and for many people, life-long commitments. I only plan on getting married once and can afford a new dress, therefore, its worth the expense for me. I also don’t plan on selling or “trashing” my dress afterward.
Post # 12
My wedding is still at least a year and a half away (date set is the farthest possible, not realistic lol) but I had been looking at dresses for quite a while so I knew what I wanted (mermaid, lace/embroidered/detailed but not tons of bling) and fell in love with a lazaro (a 6-7k that has been discontinued and about three times my dress budget) I found it preowned as a RECEPTION dress for $1500 and the girl had my exact same measurements so I won’t even need to alter it!! Seeing as I saved around $5500 I defenitely say preowned!! And tons of them are samples or new with tags or (like mine) reception dresses!
Post # 13
I think I didn’t really look into preowned dresses because I couldn’t try them on. If that wasn’t an issue I would have no problem buying preowned.
Post # 14
Definitely preowned!! I bought an amazing $5,600 dress preowned for less than half that. I got lucky- the girl who I bought it from is very similar in size to me but about 5 pounds heavier so it just needs one fitting. I also bought it in my city, so I could go see it and try it on. I’m so happy with how it turned out!
Post # 15
I wish I went preowned. I didn’t look around much before I bought my dress, and I went with an impulse purchase. I almost wish I could do it over again!
Post # 16
@abeautifulbride: I didn’t want to buy a preowned dress for a couple of reasons:
– I wouldn’t be able to to try it on. Depending on the dress, I might have been able to try it on at a local salon before ordering, but there would be no guarantee they’d have the exact dress I’d fallen in love with online.
– The issue of sizing … I know some girls get lucky and find someone of a similar height with similar measurements, but what happens if you fall in love with something you’d never be able to fit into? The only listing on any reputable preowned site for a specific dress may be a size that just wouldn’t work.
– I’m extremely detail oriented and anal. I’m that person … The one who notices the tiny little rip or spot of dirt that no one else could ever notice. And then I obsess over it. I have no doubts that a preowned gown can be delivered in immaculate condition … But I’ve heard enough horror stories to know that’s not always the case.
I understand buying a preowned dress if it’s just not in your budget to buy new. I also understand buying preowned if you find an amazing deal on your dream dress (that also happens to be in your size or close enough). I planned to buy a new dress, though, so that’s what I did.
(For what it’s worth, I have nothing against buying a preowned vehicle or home. I actually bought my car used! I feel like homes and cars are significantly more expensive, though. I guess a wedding dress could cost $20,000+ too, but I definitely wasn’t able/willing to spend that kind of money on a clothing item! If a brand new car only cost $3000, I’d definitely buy the brand new car.)