Post # 1
Hi all! I’m new here. I visit all the time but have never really felt the need to post.
Just feeling overwhelmed today. Not with wedding details or money or anything like that. But w/ my friends and family and their attitudes about wedding stuff.
Some of my BMs are really busy and don’t want to talk about details. That’s OK. I understand. My mom doesn’t like the style of reception that I am having, so she doesn’t want to be bothered w/ anything. That’s OK. I understand. My fancy just wants to play hockey and watch football. That’s OK. I understand. (I think) I have a jealous Bridesmaid or Best Man (& best friend) and she always has an attitude or brushes me off. Believe it or not. That’s OK. I understand.
What I don’t understand is, if I can be understanding, why can’t they?
I never thought that the hardest part of planning a wedding was trying not to have my feelings hurt. I realize that nobody is as excited or interested in my wedding as me, but still…when do I get some understanding?
Just a vent…Everyone have a wonderful evening.
Post # 3
Sorry 🙁 . . .but
Share with us!! We are excited for you!! Welcome!!
Post # 4
Maybe yoy are too understanding. You have a few months to go. Maybe they will be more excited once the date is closer and they can’t avoid thinking about their parts in your wedding.
Post # 5
Do you have any other friends or family members who are also engaged? I had some friends who were engaged at the same time as me and we talked about our weddings a lot. We traded ideas back and forth and sought each others opinions. That was great because other brides are alway willing to talk weddings, and it stopped me from boring the other people in my life with wedding talk.
I’m sorry you aren’t getting the support and excitement you deserve. I do think you should talk to your finace about it. At the very least he should be sharing in your excitement.
Post # 6
Sorry it seems that everyone you care about is uninterested in your big day. Being an older bride (I was 39), most of my friends weren’t into the details, nor was my husband. I, was however, lucky enough to have a Mom that loved the planning process.
Feel free to share with me! Can I help you in anyway? I LOVE weddings!
Post # 7
Welcome to the hive! You will get all the support we can give here.
Post # 8
I could have written your post!!! I’ve found that just reading the boards here and interacting has really helped. I am sorry you feel that way, it’s no fun.
Post # 9
First off, welcome to the hive! This is the place to be, to release your frustrations. Planning a wedding is certainly not easy, and it’s so comforting to have other brides here to help with being interested in your wedding. I think the hardest thing to remember is that not all of our BMs are in relationships or marriages (making them slightly sad for themselves), so sometimes it’s very hard for them to be as involved in *your* day as you would like them to be. As you go through the planning process, try to remember that your BMs would like to be asked how they’re doing. Just a little 20/20 perspective now that i’m almost 2 months married!
Post # 10
We like details here!
Seriously, a huge chunk of my reasoning behind being here is because I didn’t want to bother my IRL people with my ridiculous wedding questions or ramblings. Beyond that though, I genuinely like a lot of my fellow posters and feel like we’d for sure be friends IRL. It’s a GREAT outlet, whether wedding related or just life related. 🙂
Post # 11
Hi! Wecome to the Hive!!! I am also a newbie 🙂 but I have found great comfort in staying in touch with other brides on weddingbee 🙂 don’t be afraid to post all the time! I sit at home at nights just surfing post after post trying to calm my frustrations or finding answers and ideas to my questions.