- 6 years ago
I have been lurking for a few weeks now, but I really love how supportive almost everyone is on this board, and I am looking for a vent to all of my excitement and angst as someone who is waiting. I think I am starting to drive my boyfriend and my friends insane, so perhaps it would be healthier to babble to others who understand what I’m going through!
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years as of 2 weeks ago, and we have been living together for a little over one year.
We have been dating since I was 20 and he was 21, making us 25 and 26 now. Our relationship was LD for that first year (our last year of college). I have known that I want to marry him for a long time. We have had a lot of struggles both personally (hello economy!) and within our relationship, but we are at a high point now.
We have used the words “when we get married” for a long time, but I had no idea when it would come. Around Easter I got a little tipsy and asked him for a timeline, because I didn’t now if it would be in 3 weeks or 3 years. When I asked, he considered it as if he had never thought of it before!
Needless to say, I was really upset about that. It made me feel like we were on totally separate pages in our relationship. He thought about it, and since he is entering a graduate program in the fall, he said he would need to be in school for at least 1 year before he was ready to get engaged, so around next May, 2013.
Lately though, things have changed a lot for the better. He initiates conversations about rings and wedding bands and wedding planning. We just went to the wedding of one of his fraternity brothers, and he had a great time (and fielded all of the “when is it your turn” questions with “within the year we’ll be engaged, I’m just trying to surprise her”). It was hard but also exciting because the couple getting married had been together only 6 months longer than we have. I think that it really showed him that we aren’t too young anymore and that it isn’t weird to be thinking about this. At one point I asked, “do I really have to wait til spring?” and he said, “Maybe, maybe not. You’re bad at being surprised but I am determined to surprise you this time”.
I am so happy and so excited, but also OBSESSED. I never pictured myself to be “that” girl! I am hoping these boards will be a healthy place for me to vent.
Anyway, I can’t wait to get to know you!