(Closed) New Here, Rant About The Knot

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 4
723 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Funny you should say that..I had a similar experience when I posted my first post on The Knot about how then-BF had taken me ring shopping. I was so excited and really didn’t want to tell anyone IRL in case something happened and he didn’t propose for a while. Posting on a wedding board seemed like the appropriate venue where I could share my excitement! Wow! You should have seen the messages asking who I was and why I was telling a bunch of random strangers and it seemed weird that I would just storm onto their message board with this announcement. You’re right when you say it felt like downright bullying.  I should also mention that I had specifically posted my message on a board for the not-yet-engaged, similar to the waiting board here. It all made sense to me. 


I was so taken aback that I never posted again. I did end up finding the Bee a few days later and posted almost the exact same message. The reactions were night and day and the ladies here were genuinely excited for the latest newbie. 


And that is why I’m still here! 😉

Post # 5
13294 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There have been a lot of comments like this about the knot boards.  Welcome to the Hive! Hopefully you find a better fit here! 🙂

Post # 6
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Yikes! It sounds like a war zone over there! I’ve never posted on The Knot but I’ve heard Bees say it was pretty negative. 

Welcome to the Bee!

Post # 9
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

There are parts of TK that are great (try your local or month boards to get your feet wet).  If you just into certain forums as a newbie, well, you might have the experience you did. I personally couldn’t stand the way the site works…the cluttered design, the 1990s functionality, the postage stamp sized pictures, the constant bugs. 

The Bee is far more pleasing aesthetically and functionally.  We seem to have more diversity with respect to styles and customs here. 



Post # 11
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

@amanda0543:  I’m with you…after all, I’m a bee blogger, so I clearly love this place and promote it.  I’m glad you found us!

Post # 12
628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I almost posted in the Knot message boards once.I was browsing they not yet engaged board this poor girl posted how excited she was to finally be engaged. She only had thirty posts under her belt. They bombarded her with comments like who was she and why was she telling them this. I was so off put by this I got they hell out of there I found the Bee which is funny because I found both sites on the helper of the bride android app. I’m very happy with my decision. You Bees are great!

Post # 13
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I really did not like the atmosphere on the knot. I never posted there though.

Post # 14
3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@amanda0543:  Welcome to the Bee!  I never went on the Knot boards, but have read lots of posts similar to yours here, so I’m glad I didn’t.  

I love your Philosoraptor avatar, by the way.  

Post # 15
23 posts

I tried The Knot for a while… I’m the mom of a soon-to-be married bride, and I wanted information. That is one group of aggressive women! They are cult-like, as the previous poster pointed out. They stick to their golden unbreakable rules no matter what the situation. “Oh, your friend’s boyfriend is a serial pedophile? You still have to invite him. They’re a social unit.”  Many of them don’t THINK over there. They go by rote. They attack like a group of middle school popular girls. Ugh.

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