Post # 1
I have a question for you all. Last week my SO and I had “the talk” about becoming engaged. 2 years ago (yes, 2 years) he took me out to look at rings, and I’ve been waiting for the proposal ever since. The economy has hit us hard, and I lost my job six months ago so finances are tight. We had “the talk” over the winter, and he stated that he was hoping to be able to propose in the Spring. Well, it’s summer, so I initiated the conversation last week.
He stated that he had hoped to be able to purchase the ring by now. He’s disappointed that he isn’t able to.
To make a long story short, I had a beautiful five diamond platinum ring left to me from my mother. It was an anniversary ring. I have not been able to wear it, as it’s too big for my fingers. I asked him if he felt comfortable using this ring as the engagement ring. He agreed! It would make me extremely happy to be able to wear this ring all the time, as I miss my mom a lot. Plus, it’s a pretty nice ring!
Here’s the question, I’m curious if people would find it weird that he didn’t purchase a separate ring, or if it’s appropriate to use this ring for an engagement ring.
Post # 3
I love the idea that’s not weird at all. Besides who cares what anyone else thinks =]
Post # 4
I think it’s a beautiful idea
Post # 5
I personally would have loved to have been able to have my mothers or grandmothers ring. I’m the sentimental type and think the idea is beautiful! its the symbolism/meaning behind the ring that is important! Congratulations!!
Post # 6
I think that’s an awesome idea… and who cares about what other people would think of it?!?! You’re being realistic about not being able to afford a ring, but you still want to get engaged. What better way to do so then to wear a ring that you love and has a place in your heart. You’ll be marrying him no matter where the ring came from! 🙂
Post # 7
I have a friend who has an anniversary ring e-ring and its beautiful. She paired it with a plain gold band for a wedding ring and the effect is stunning, very bridal. If you like it go for it!
Post # 8
I personally think that heirloom rings make the most beautiful and sentimental erings. I plan on passing mine on to my children in the future. It sounds gorgeous, do you have a photo of it?
Post # 9
you can always have it re-sized for you. sometimes the best gifts are free and plus this one is super sentimental…my cousin used our grandmothers wedding band as her own…it’s something you can pass down to your daughter/son one day =)
Post # 10
It’s not weird at all, it’s a beautiful idea! Do you have any pictures of the ring?
Post # 11
I have a family diamond as my e-ring so I don’t think it’s weird at all. Many ladies also use bands as their e-rings so I say go for it 🙂
Post # 12
@karenk92: I think that’s a beautiful idea 🙂 lots of couples use rings that were gifted to them or inherited from family members and i think the history that gives the ring is lovely. Besides, I’m sure your job situations/finances will work out eventually (its tough for everyone right now) so your Fiance could aways get you something later on down the line as an anniversary gift or something if he really felt the need to purchase something he’d chosen himself. I love the fact that it reminds you of your mother, and this way it will remind you of your relationship and this happy engaged time as well 🙂
Post # 13
Not weird, do whatever you want, who cares what anyone else thinks
Post # 14
It’s a great idea given the financial situation you two are in. Just have it re-sized and then use it as your engagement ring. He can always buy you an anniversary ring later down the road.
Post # 15
That’s not weird! It’s awesome! Can’t wait to see pictures!!
Post # 16
I love the idea. I think heirloom rings are special and more meaningful.