Post # 1
I am a worrier by nature. It’s all part of the charm I guess.
My boyfriend of almost two years and I have talked about getting engaged. We say the comments, “Can’t wait!” and he’s even said, “Be patient with me. I promise I’m saving!”. We’ve looked at rings one time together and I’ve mentioned and sent pictures of the type of ring I’d love. I promised myself I wouldn’t mention the ring again until he got down on his knee.
The other day, I was on his computer and was trying to find a website I had visited a few days earlier on the history. What do I see as I’m scrolling down? Engagement ring searches…. Exciting, right?! I am so happy! BUT (isn’t there always a but?!) the engagement ring search was for a princess cut engagement ring. Not even close to what I have in mind and have hinted at (round or cushion cut).
How do I bring up that it’s not the ring I want?! Without appearing (a) ungrateful and (b) nosy.
Post # 3
I’ve never told my husband this, but the ring he got me was NOTHING what I’d always expected, but I loved it. I’m not saying you shouldn’t talk to him, but, maybe you’d like the ring he would get you whether you realize it or not. I dunno, I would just be happy that I was engaged! 🙂 ya know? 😀
Post # 4
First off, welcome to the hive.
Secondly, have you ever brought it up to him, when you all were talking about rings?
Guys are clueless for the most part. Since the princess cut is usually the one being advertised all the time, he prob just assumes that’s what all women will like. That or he doesn’t even know that other cuts exist!
Since you don’t want to bring it up out of the blue, so you aren’t going back on your word to never bring it up, maybe wait until a Helzberg or Jareds commercial comes on. Make a comment about the ring they are showing. Maybe something like “Oh, thats a really pretty ring, but I’ve always been a fan of the _________ ring.” Then maybe he will get a clue.
G’luck. I’m right there with ya in the waiting boat
Post # 5
LOL I literally just had this happen to me..I was on BFs laptop history and saw that he was on Blue Nile doing what I assume is ring shopping (the link to the shopping basket was shown along with 7-8 other links) but I NEVERRR clicked on any b/c I want to be surprised! I would go with WendyS328’s suggestion.. 🙂
Post # 6
I agree about dropping hints. Or you could just mention how particular you are about jewelry? Or maybe how a different shape of diamond would look best on your hands? Can you comment on one of your friend’s rings? My Boyfriend or Best Friend knows I am pretty particular and asked for a written report of what I wanted after I tried on some rings, but even if he gets something different I am sure it will be nice and I’ll love it.
Post # 7
Welcome to the board! I think im in the perpetual waiting list here so feel free to ask for support from the rest of us waiting bees. We are always here to listen! I would also agree with Wendy.. make a comment that isnt so obvious, guys are really clueless sometimes lol!
Post # 8
Welcome! I love Wendy’s idea about waiting for a commercial to come on and fawning over a ring you like to give him an idea while still being indirect enough that he feels in control.
Post # 9
lol, I would so drop hints, he probably doesnt even realize about the different cuts. Maybe something like your friend got a princess cut engagement ring, and its really pretty, but you love the round diamonds because they sparkle more, or something like that… OR if you have a close friend that can talk to him, she can pretend she’s trying to find out what kind of ring he’s getting you, and then steer him in the right direction..
Post # 10
I believe if you have a specific style of ring in mind then you should tell him. I was very forward because the ring I want is unique/untraditional and he wouldn’t have picked it out himself. He knows the setting, the stone size/type/shape, that I want it yellow gold, what kind of band I want to fit with it, my ring size… everything. I have photos of the exact ring on our computer to e-mail the jeweler whenever he’s ready to get it made and pop the question. For me, knowing the ring won’t ruin the surprise or make the proposal less special. I doubt letting him know what shape you want will bother/offend him. It could only make the search easier as well as the waiting for you, in my opinon.