(Closed) New Holiday Traditions for Blended Families!

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Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

We’re

  • putting up the tree today… my son and I never made it a huge to do to put it up and really never had one because my mom’s was so awesome…
  • we bake cookies and drink cocoa when we’re putting the tree up…
  • also travelling to grandma’s house (my mom) it looks like we’re switching every year
  • let’s see this year i’m taking the kids to wear i work with their chore money so they can buy gifts for each other… we have a dollar aisle that has great stocking stuffers and i’m going to allow them to buy gifts for everyone that they love with it and wrap it…

 

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@belle: chocolate chips… and m’s son has requested brownies so i’m making both lol

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This will be our first Christmas as a married couple. We are coming back from Jamaica on December 24th (FIs b-day). We plan on spending the rest of the night with the kids. We are driving down to Florida Christmas morning b/c it’s his family’s year to go to FL. I am excited b/c our family is complete this year (FI found out he fathered a son w/a HS Girlfriend in October. So now in addition to his 19 yr old…he is the proud papa of a 24 year old bouncing baby boy…LOL).

We won’t be doing a tree and stuff until next Christmas but just having all of us celebrate together is the start of a beautiful tradition.

Post # 7
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Helper bee

MY Fiance has been really great about letting me incorporate some of my family traditions into our new family traditions – tangerine in the toe of the stocking followed by Hanukkah geld (the gold coins).  For me, the thing that’s new is waiting until December 6 to get a tree and go crazy with decoration’s – FI’s birthday is 12/5.

Luckily, FI’s 10 year-old son just goes with the flow at Christmas.  We have him this year (every other year for Christmas) so we’re working on building new traditions together as a family!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We get the our tree the first weekend of December.  We always have to cut it down ourselves, which I also love to do.  We go back to the house, the kids play and go through our ‘just pulled out of storage’ Christmas stuff while Fiance and I get the tree in the stand and dressed in lights.  I get to have my two kids Christmas eve when we go to our family holiday party, then we come back home to put out cookies and milk for santa; carrots for the reindeer, then to bed.  Well, the kids go to bed, once they are asleep Fiance and I get to work on getting ready for Christmas morning.  Fiance doesn’t have any kids of his own so he truly enjoys this aspect of parenting, who wouldn’t?!  The kids rise with the sun and we do gifts and breakfast, then relax together with hot cocoa.  Around noon we meet up with my ex and the kids go off for a couple of days with him and his family to do their Christmas thing.

I’m so excited for tonight too!  There is a very small ‘city’ near my house (Westerly, RI) and they have the nicest, quaintest Christmas night tonight.  Carolers, lighting of the tree, Santa, hay rides, etc.  this is going to be part of our family tradition for years to come.  I have fantacies of dragging my two kids (now 12 and 8) when they are in their 20’s home from college to go see the lights.  I remind myself as often as I can to slow down and enjoy each moment like a poloroid shapshot.  Every year I say a small prayer out to the universe asking for insight and guidance in helping to create the most happy, joyful memories for these kids that I can.  The universe is very generous because we all end up with wonderful memories 🙂

Happy Holidays everyone!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

The first Christmas my kids went with their dad was really hard for me.  In previous years after our divorce, I would be able to get up early and go to his apartment/house for them to do Santa presents.  Last year the X got married a few weeks before Christmas so he and his live-in Girlfriend could keep them. 

My mom and I hatched a plan to help the kids feel better about being gone…  They were really unhappy and begging not to go.

The day that they return from their dad’s (or the day after) is PAJAMA CHRISTMAS DAY…  We spend the entire day at my parents and being in PJ’s is a requirement.  We eat leftovers or breakfast/brunch and usually make a pot of soup or chili.  We play board games and watch old home movies or my mom’s black and white Christmas movies.  Since no one is “hostess” that day, we can all really relax.  My kids LOVE Pajama Christmas and don’t feel like they are missing Christmas with us. 

During the times the kids are with us – we always:

  • bake
  • drive around to look at lights
  • walk in Town Square
  • see the Nutcracker
  • attend holiday church services

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We also have to do “the switch” with FI’s kids.  This year their mom will be dropping them off with us on Christmas Eve so they’ll be waking up Christmas morning with us!  My son’s father is technically supposed to have him every other Christmas, but he lives out of state, and although every year he says he is going to come down and see him for christmas, he never has.  Last year, he couldn’t even manage to send a card or a gift… but that’s a story for another time…

Anyway, I know the “switch” can suck, but we just celebrate Christmas whenever the kids are all here.  Last year we didn’t get them until the night of the 25th, so they just woke up the morning of the 26th and we celebrated that day like it was Christmas morning.  It’s not so much about the actual date, but everyone being together as a family.

Some of our christmas traditions:

Playing christmas music and decorating the tree (This weekend!)

Going to our town’s tree-lighting ceremony, where they shoot off fireworks and have games and treats for the kids (also this weekend!)

Reading “The night before Christmas” on the night before christmas (tradition from my childhood)

Going for walks through the neighborhood after dark to look at all the lights

Eating pancakes and chocolate ice cream for breakfast on christmas morning (FI’s tradition)

It’s all about the kids, and it’s so great to see them enjoying traditions from their father, and introducing them to new ones from my family.  I can’t wait!!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m super scared about Christmas next year… I can’t imagine anything worse than having to spend Christmas away from my family. Ever. I realize this makes me selfish but oh man, it makes me cry just thinking about it. Thankfully, I think we’re going to try and get our families together for Christmas! Hopefully, they’ll come down to Atlanta btu I don’t know if that would be possible since the grandmothers are old and can’t travel. We’ll see, but it’s a tradition I’d love to see happen.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My family has a party on X-Mas Eve every year (a tradition started by my great-grandparents). I mean, a full on party, party. When I was married, I took that over once I became an adult, so we’re doing that.

We’re also going to decorate stockings to hang up for Santa with the kids (his and mine).

We’ll decorate the tree together.

We’ll make a gingerbread house.

We’ll make presents (for his kids mom) and grandparents (for my kids).

 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Thought I’d post some pix of our new Christmas Eve tradition. We never got to do this when I was a kid… But now on no matter where we are this is our tradition…

I give you the glorious mansion of a gingerbread house built by two 8 year olds and a six year old…

their house… yeah their roof is caving in but I think it’s the cutest thing EVER!! lol!!!

later we’ll finally be baking our cookies, that i promised I’d do weeks ago…

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