Post # 46
There’s nothing wrong with contributing to a honeymoon or house fund… that’s why you always have the option to give cash no matter what a person does or doesn’t “ask for.” And giving cash is exactly what most people do without having to be prompted.
The choice is not between a honeyfund/house fund OR a registry. No need for a registry if you don’t want one. But that doesn’t mean you have to then set up a fund just to state the obvious fact that everyone knows: “hey, btw, we like money.”
Post # 48
LOL, it’s a question about a gift registry and the Queen isn’t invited to her wedding – lighten up a little!
Post # 49
For me it was either: 1. Don’t create a registry and just let people make their own assumptions or, 2. Set up the Newlywed Fund thing.
Post # 50
We aren’t asking for anything. This was a question of, should we setup this fund or just not create a registry.
Post # 51
Thanks all for your feedback on this!
I am not going to set up a fund or create a registry. If people would like to contribute, that’s great, if not, that is great, too!
Post # 52
My biggest issue is the title “cute or tacky” Ew… asking for cash is NEVER cute.
Post # 53
I think not setting up either is the best way to get what you want, which is cash.
We set up a small registry only because our moms made a huge deal over the fact that we weren’t going to. As others have said, it’s just a suggestion on physical things we wanted. No one is forcing people to buy off of it. FWIW, my husband is the one that wanted all the kitchen stuff as he’s taken a huge interest in cooking.
We only got 2 physical gifts at our wedding, the majority was cash and we got a few gift cards. I too don’t like the honeyfunds because they take a percentage of your gift.
I also think setting up something like a fund to pay for a downpayment makes people feel bad if they cannot contribute a “decent” amount. People are already spending a lot of money to attend the wedding. I think it send the wrong idea telling people how they have to spend their money/gift.
Post # 54
I wouldn’t do it only because some people tend to be incredibly judgemental and snobbish about this type of thing. Logically, I do not understand why it’s okay to request items to fill up your house in a registry, but sooo horrifically tacky to request support for actually buying the house? It makes zero sense to me, but there it is.
Post # 55
It’s the title of a board on a wedding website, not something I am going to write on my invitations, so it actually isn’t that serious, but thanks!